I'm 19 (20 soon) and ive recently found that that i am pregnant.. My mum (and her husband) has only 1 month ago left on a year long trip so isnt due back till March 2008.. I'm due in November 2007.. But i dont want to ruin her trip by her coming back early because of me.. i'm sure she wouldnt mind.. but i feel bad because shes been organising it for about a year and only just left..
i really dont know how to tell my mum.. i dont think that they would take it badly or anything.. but i'm just afraid that she will feel compelled to cut her trip short..
2007-03-21 18:28:18 · 17 answers · asked by *edb* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My partner is very supportive and we have been together for 3 years, living together for 2 and recently bought our own house.. we have all we need.. house, cars, good paying full time jobs, very supportive families..
2007-03-21 18:28:35 · update #1
I know if you dont tell your mom soon once she does find out she will be very hurt and upset. You are her daughter and this is a big deal. Im quite sure she will wanna be there with you, even if not physically right now. My mom was mad at me because I didnt tell her the day I found out!! Keep in mind she "knew" before me though!!
2007-03-21 18:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a young woman and seems liek you have the best of both worlds a good man and two good sets of parents his and yours ! regardless it will be fine and its really up to you two when you decide to tell your parents . I'm sure your mom will understand that your pregnant and more then likely she will want to be there for you and give you the support you will need and besides its going to be her grandchild and trust me most people cant wait for there grandkids to get here!!! so think about it and dont feel bad about it, she can always rescheulde her trip and family should come first but every ones version of famly time is different . even though she wanted to go on the trip i am sure she will want to be there for you too!! but above all else you need to tell her so that way she won't feel like you wanted to keep it from her until the last minute, she will just be upset and wonder why she was the last to find out. most parents take it personal and get upset and thats the last thing you need !!! you just need to focus on you and your baby and not sweat the minor stuff ;) congrats...;)
2007-03-22 01:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by southernspring2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you really have everything together. I envy you, I'm 19 soon to be 20 and I think that I'm pregnant, but I am still in college, working part time. But I would still tell my mother no matter what situation I was in, or where she was. I'm sure that since you are so successful, she will take it well and gladly come home for you. Trips can always be rescheduled!
2007-03-22 01:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by im_just_jaq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's hard. But, you want it, and its what you want to do. You should tell her before you are even 5 months pregnant. Their trip sounds nice but don't you want them to be there for it all? They will still have a LONG time there so dont fuss about it until then. But if you really need to seek help you should explain. Do what you feel is right!
You should tell her now, but explain that you want her to stay but see what she says. You are her daughter and she supports you all the way!
2007-03-22 01:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by A s h l e y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad if your mum cute her trip early it's because she loves you. She will be either worried or excited...either way you wouldn't be ruining anything, you will be introducing her to a wonderful new life very soon, how much better can That feel?
2007-03-22 01:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her now. Get two envelopes write her a letter and stick it in one of the envelopes. Take ur ultrasound and stick it in the other envelop and place that one in the first (if u havent got a pic of ur ultrasound wait until u do it makes everything better trust me). on the front of the second envelope put DONT OPEN!!!!! on front of the letter put read first. then tell her in the letter about how u and ur husband are ready for a kid and can support ur baby 100%. Then tell her to open the second one
2007-03-22 01:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by himsdarkangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elise, it's time you got married. So, take your partner to the courthouse and get a marriage license and certificate. Call your mom and tell her you are married, and having her grandchild legitimately. Tell her you will be sending her lots of pictures, and that you plan on having a big celebration when they return from their trip. So do this for the sake of your child and for the sanity of your mom, your dad, your partner, and you.
2007-03-22 01:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should definitely tell your mom and let her decide if she wants to be there in that babys first 4 months of its life. let her decide whether she wants to cut her trip short or not.
2007-03-22 03:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by kikness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom won't care about her trip. You are her baby and you are going to have her grand baby, that will be more important than anything to her. Just tell her.
2007-03-22 01:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them or not, why does it matter? she will not be thrilled if you dont tell her and she will mess up her trip if you do. no good way to do it. send her a note with a date on it, and when she asks what that date is, tell her its the day she should be a grandma.
2007-03-22 02:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋