to stay in nyc (and finish my last yr of high school) or move to houston texas?

Question

im in my junior yr of high school, i'll be graduating in one more year. i would love to graduate from my current high school, but my family (mom dad little sis) bought a house in houston TX and are planning to move by this summer. should i stay with a (family) friend's family for a yr and go to college here, or move to TX with my fam and fly back here for college after a yr? if i were to stay. i would have to work over the summer for most of the money i would need to support myself, and is it even legal to stay with another family at 17? i really do want to stay here, it would mean so much more for me to graduate from my current high school. my parents are still considering. i need some advice, please.

Answer 1

its legal with your parents consent to live with another family.

It would be advisable for someone local to have a medical power of attorney, so if you are badly hurt or sick they can make desisions until your parents are contacted.

Have you planned yet on a college ? If your parents are living in Houston is there a nearby college that would suit you. ?

A lot depends on how mature you are. Your friends arent going to want to have to push you , or constantly remind you to study .

Good luck whichever you do.

You could try it for a few months on the understanding that if it doesnt work out , or your grades drop , that you will transfer to texas.

Answer 2

You can stay with a family if your parents allow it. IF.

My guess is that your parents won't be giving you that option. Mine didn't. I moved here to Houston when I was 16, my junior year (from a state that can see Manhattan but isn't New York). I had few choices back then as to whether I could stay.

Looking back 30 years, I did the right thing by moving here. I missed my friends and my old high school, but hey, life wasn't (and isn't) fair. I got over it. I made new friends here. Besides, you might just like it and decide to go to college here (where the rates are a fraction of the northeast). You may think, naaaah, never could happen, but it does. Texas is home, and has been for most of 30 years. I've lived in other places, whether in the Navy, off at school, or for business, but I always come back. My first college was in Connecticut. I hated it. I became Texan. Worse things could happen!

Oh, and welcome!

EDIT: Konswayla is right on the mark. This is a rite of passage. Change is inevitable.

Answer 3

I"m from Houston. (aj, you must be pretty "dull, ugly and boring.") It would be hard to leave the friends you have in NYC. If you do come here, let it be a rite of passage. One thing you learn from life is that change will always happen. If you come with an open mind, (not a small one like aj) you can go back to NYC with a different perspective on your country. Take a peek over the metaphorical fence. Take the plunge. You'll have all sorts of new experiences. But it won't be anything like NYC. What better place to broaden your horizons than the endless Texas sky? Steer clear of the bad neighborhoods.

Answer 4

Have a trip to Houston before you make your decision. I'm older, about to retire, but I love the area. Yes it would be nice to close with your graduating class. Will missing your family affect your concentration for the school year?After you turn eighteen, you will be able to go any where you want. Consider the move to Houston. You can always go home again.

Answer 5

When my friend was in eighth grade, her family moved, and so she stayed at a friend's house for the remainder of the year; only seeing her family on the weekends. Yes, it is perfectly legal to stay with another family at 17 (my friend was 12).

It depends what you think is more important; being with family or graduating from your high school/being with your friends.

To aj_lets_go_shopping, who said Houston was more dull and boring? Two of my friends moved to Texas, and they've adapted fine. pfft...

Answer 6

if you move to H-Town (huoston) tou would have the love of your parents and si there with you though you wont be with all your friends you would be with your family and could make new ones plus in H-Town there is alot to do and Texas is the best state in the big old US of A

Im a texan true and clear

P.S. If yor are from NY dont tell anyone your a Yankee!!!!
P.S.S, if you go to the right schools in H-Town you could get a great education!!!
happy helper

Answer 7

Come to Texas.

Here's why.

Back when Texas was just getting started as a State they set up the State University System. Now the Texas Legislature had to fund it somehow, but we don't like taxes down here and there wasn't a lot of money in Texas anyway at the time. What we did have a lot of though was LAND.

So the Legislature, being kind of slimy, gave all the "good land" in the eastern part of the State (where there is water and trees and such) to settlers, to veterans, and to friends of the Legislators who made a ton of $$ by selling it to settlers. The dry, barren, empty land in the western part of the State that nobody wanted.... THAT is what was all given to the University system.

Then, about 50 years later, OIL was found on that dry empty land nobody wanted. (It's called "The Permian Basin".)

This means that the University of Texas, Texas A&M and the other State schools here have had TONS of money poured into them over the years; but most of it doesn't come from tution. You can get an education as good, or better, as at an East Coast Ivy League school for next to nothing in tution, IF you are a Texas Resident.

(If you don't belive me, Google "University of Texas " and "McCombs School of Buisness").

The way you become a Texas Resident is you live here for a year before you start college.

So here is what you do. Move here. Live here for a year. Go to UT. Get a better education than you would back East for about 1/2 or 1/3 of the price. It will not only save you a TON of money upfront (enough to buy a good used car, at least), BUT it will pay you dividends for the rest of your life because unless you are going to go to Yale or Harvard, a U.T. degree will get you more and better jobs in life.

Now, I know it will be hard for you to leave your friends behind, and it will be a hard move. You have my full sympathy for that.

BUT

Lets play real world here. You are going to be leaving them behind in a year anyway. Everybody says "we will be friends forever" but in the real world nobody is. Sorry, but that is just the way life works. You are going to be feeling the pain of separation from them anyway, the only question is, will it be in the summer of 07 or the summer of 08?

Now, if you ARE going to Yale, Harvard, Cornell or Princeton, then what I say won't apply. A Harvard diploma is hard to beat, (unless you went to Oxford).

But if your college is anything less than a full blown Ivy League school (and even if it is RICE down in Houston can go head to head with them for a lot less $$$) your best move is to say good bye a year early. Feel sad. Come to Houston. E-mail your old friends. Meet somebody cute. Go to school here. Become a Texas resident. Go to UT Austin. Pocket a ton of cash in tution savings. Use that to buy a car. Hang out in Austin, Meet somebody else cute. and get a better education. After you graduate get a better job than you would have back home.

Remember, everyone is moving to Texas because we have something the Blue States don' t have LOTS OF GOOD JOBS. You won't be the only person in your High School class to move to Texas, you will just be the first.

Six years from now your classmates will be looking you up with "Hey, remember me? We went to High School together... could you help me find a job down in Dallas?" or "do you know anybody who works in..." or "I'll be coming to San Antonio for an interview and I was wondering if..."

Answer 8

I would stay there for one year. I would hate to have to spend my last year of high school trying to make such a huge adjustment and leaving all my friends behind. Then again, you might find that you would get a lot more attention from the opposite sex being 'the new kid.'

Answer 9

Stay in NYC. I've lived here for a year. Houston is dull, ugly, and boring.

Answer 10

The former appears to be appealing and appropriate unless you have pressing reasons to act otherwise!