okay i dated this guy for about 6 months and i know it doesnt seem like a long time but i really fell for him hard. one day he decided that he was going to break up with me because things werent the same. ive been devestated ever since. and i dont know what to do. when i think of him my stomach hurts and i cant stop crying and i just need some help and some tips on how to get over the one guy i think im actually in love with. oh and he also already has a new girl how am i supposed to deal with this.
2007-03-21 18:15:53 · 3 answers · asked by outrageousdiva414 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
there is no easy way. only time will allow the hurt to pass.
you can keep busy with friends and family, talk to them also. but the only total cure for heartbreak is time.
2007-03-21 18:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by D mon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help in the furture if you would include at least your age when asking questons. It makes it easier to know what we are dealing with. Ok...you have loved and lost...and yes it does hurt. There is an old saying and it goes like this: 'It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all" Does that make sense to you? In other words, as painfull as I am sure this is, there is alot of good that can come from it. And before I tell you the good, let me first say that unfortunatly this is how dating life is...and suppose to be. Some come in your life, and love you, and you don't love back and some come in your life, and you love them, and they don't love back. But its not all a waste and thats where the good comes in. See you had a wonderfull run with this guy and if you fell in love with him then there are qualities about him that you really liked. Well you need to tuck those qualities away so that the next guy you become interested in you kinda look for those qualities. And as you go thru your dating years, you continue to meet and date guys that have qualities you find desirable. The ultimate goal is, to one day find the kind of guy that has most of those qualities so that he becomes a great choice for a liflelong partner. Notice I didn't say an acceptable partner....I said a great partner, because when you get to that stage, you don't want to settle for anything less than great. You deserve that much. So, even though it hurts, allow your self to be sad for a week or two and shake the initial pain, but then go ahead with your life knowing you had some wonderful experiences with a great guy and now you have something to build onto with the next good guy that comes along....and believe me....another great guy will come along........Good Luck!
2007-03-21 18:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important to realize that you cannot control the actions and emotions of other people. You have 3 options:
Wish him well and realize that the only person that knows what is best for him is himself.
Hate him and be miserable.
Let go and move on.
I understand what you are going through. Good luck with your personal growth and awareness.
2007-03-21 18:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mid-Island- Marc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋