how do i tell my mom im pregnant?

Question

ok so i used protection and it broke im usally very responceable. 5 weeks later and im pregnant im having a very difficult time telling my mom. she had me at 16 so u might think it would be easier but its not. she worked harder to make sure that i didnt get pregnant then other moms i guess she doesnt want me to make the same mistakes im 18 im ging to be 19. i kinda bring it up to her by sayin my friend thinks shes pregnant. and shes scared her moms gunna kick her out. and she says i would too.. i donno if she means it im about to just pack my stuff leave a note and move in with my gramma but i dont want to do that i want her suport i made a mistake im living with it and i know its gunna be hard someone help me and tell me how i should tell my mother

Answer 1

i had JUST turned 20 when i found out i was pregnant w/my first child. i was scared to DEATH! and so i did what you are thinking about doing. i packed my bags, left a note and took off (with the father of my baby not to grandmas).

i hurt my mother SO VERY deeply for doing that (and my father). i regret it to this day! yes, she was disappointed, yes she was upset..but she loves me. she forgave me.
she loves my son he's 9 now, and i am married to a wonderful man.. have a great stepson, just had a daughter last year, and i am due this Oct. life goes on. you might have to put some things on hold to care for this baby...but you need your mother there! you'll want her there i promise. so don't run off because although my mom forgave me for running off like that and not trusting her there are still old wounds.
you need to suck it up *so to speak* and tell her what is going on! DONT make the mistake that i did!

BTW PLEASE DO NOT get married JUST cause you are pregnant like the idiot above my post suggested. i did that and i wish i hadn't. my ex husband and i had a HORRIBLE marriage. we are good 'friends' and should have just stayed friends and co-parented our child...getting married is NOT always the right thing to do. it's NOT responsible to enter into a marriage that is not sound to begin with! how do you know that this man is a good provider etc. using the excuse that you want your child to be born legitimately is OLD fashion. you dont have to be married for your child to carry his/her father's name anymore. you just fill out the father's information on the birth certificate and he/she WILL carry the father's name. good grief! marriage is serious! a pregnancy accidental or otherwise does NOT justify a rush of THAT magnitute! if your meant to be married be truely responsible and take it slow.

Answer 2

I am 31 weeks pregnant, due my 21st and turn 19 may 1st. So I am you age. And to tell you, leaving a note and just leaving is the most imature and irrational thing ive heard of. Maybe if you were like 16, but your an adult. Give her a chance before you go do something like that. Just tell or. Or, have someone else tell her. Thats what I did, and my mom got over it it like, a day lol. Started to get excited. I hope you dont think im being mean. I just think you need to tell her, THEN make your move. Good luck! you can email me if you like. [e-mail]

Answer 3

OK this is what i suggest just sit down with your mom at home and tell her at first she is going to be mad but believe me she will eventually get over it i was 15 the first time i had to tell my parents i was and then i had an abortion well i guess i didn't learn anything because i had to tell them again when i was 17 I'm now 18 and a few weeks away from having my baby and my parents are all excited my whole family is having a baby is hard and telling your parents is hard but the bond you make between each other through the process is worth all those hard times.

Answer 4

Im glad u were responsible and used protection, but you had to of known that getting pregnant could be a result from having sex, protected or unprotected. Im pretty sure ur mom is a smart lady and already knows ur having sex. You need to brave up, sit her down and tell her because if you dont tell her SOON, she will find out! Believe me, mothers always know. I didnt tell my mom right away, but she told me one day..."so what are you gonna do about this baby?" Im like, "what??? you already knew?" So she had known 2 weeks before i found out i was pregnant. Be brave, tell her you were responsible, and tell her you are going to be responsible and take care of your baby and that you hope that she will be there for you. She might get mad at you, kick you out, if you can move in with Grandma great! But eventually, when she is over being mad, (it could be a day later or right before you give birth) when she has her grandbaby in her arms, she will forget about it.

Answer 5

No matter what you are going to have to tell your mother. Whether you sit her down and tell her face to face or write a note it is going to need to be done. I doubt that she will truely kick you out...mothers say those things to try and scare you so you'll make sure it doesn't happen to you. Your mom will be upset, but she will get over it, she is your mother and she loves you. I wish you the best of luck and as soon as you get it over with you will feel SOOO much better. I hope all goes well for you sweetie!

Answer 6

lol my mum said she would kick me out if i got pregnant! well she didn't im 17 and pregnant i told my mum and i wasfully expecting her to blow up at me and kick me out but she didn't. yes was a little dissapointed. it wont be easy but you need her to be there for you. explain to her that you did use protection and the condom broke. explain to her that abortion is not your thing and that you made a mistake and that you are prepared to live with the consequences however hard it may be! tell her that you love her and that you need her more than ever right now! the biggest thing my mum was worried about was having to support me financially i reassured her that was not what i wanted u needed her emotional support i told my mum 3 weeks ago and she has just started to come around now like i said it wont be easy. mums never are!!

Answer 7

hay. my mum had my sister @ 18 and she was the same as your mum and worked really hard and not not want her to get pregnant young but my sister got pregnant @ 21. your mum may be a little sad but she won't kick you out she knows how you feel being pregnant so young. tell he i am sure she will support you because that is what mothers are for to be there through the good and bad.

Answer 8

im 10 days late for my perdiod and i know im irregular but im starting to think i might be pregnant. i dont want to get my hopes up because i know i should wait longer but im getting nervous to find out. and if i was i dont know how id tell my mom either. probably try and gently tell her that she is going to be a grandma? lol its a hard thing to brake to a parent if their not ready to be grandparents. but either way she will always love you. and you may have made a mistake but she will always be there beside you even if she wasnt happy with stuff youve done. she'll be angry at first maybe but after she'll be just as thrilled as you are.
congrats and good luck mommy!

Answer 9

Tricia, you first tell your boyfriend. Then you two plan on going to the courthouse to get a marriage license. Afterward, take your boyfriend home to your mom and tell her you are getting married to your boyfriend. Tell her how the three of you can go to the Justice of the Peace and get a marriage license for about $100. Tell her you two are planning on doing this very soon, like within a month. Then suggest you invite his parents to the courthouse as witnesses too. If she wants to know the rush, tell her you'd like her grandchild to be born legitimately within a loving-sharing marriage. She will not object because it's a very responsible adult way to handle your accidental pregnancy.

Answer 10

what i said was mom dont hate me i really want your support but im pregnant! chances are shes worried about having to raise it for you as most moms feel that way .... i moved out on my own ... tell her you have plans to move once it is born...love at first sight and if you get kicked out you'll still be ok she will get over it. there is no way hashing around it....just tell it not gonna change anything how you say it ... and you are an adult