alright everyone close to me bailed when things got out of control. All i needed was people what i got was alot of busy signals. Eight months lather things have changed they all want to be a part of my life again now that i'm better. Where the hell where you then? How dare they? Should i let them back in or turn my back?
2007-03-21 18:03:30 · 10 answers · asked by tangerine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
SELFISHNESS!
People like that have a ME mentality. If someone gets in a situation and can no longer potentially do anything for them they want to run.
Those would be the same people who would stop associating with you if you were rich and then became broke.
They want the easy life and they think if your situation is going to slow them down, make it rougher on them, or eat into their "fun time" they want none of it.
Now that is not your fault at all. I suggest that you cozy up next to anyone who did stick around when you weren't top notch. Those are the ones you won't have to question being there for you in the future.
I'm not saying be ugly to your ex-friends. That would give them reason to NOT mind NOT being friends. You want to politely explain to them what's up and then leave it at that. If they call to apology, accept it and forgive. HOWEVER, that does NOT mean you have to be their buddy buddy again.
2007-03-21 18:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people run away from hard times out of emotion. When things get hard, sometimes it's easier to just walk away. It's like a trigger reaction. Instead of trying to face it, sometimes people need a break to think things through. I do think people should be there for their loved ones though. I think you should let them back in. Tell them how you felt when they did that. Give them a second chance. They're only human. Good luck. I know this is a hard decision and I know it probably hurts a lot when the people you trust break it.
2007-03-21 18:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by ME! Who'd ya think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, alot of people turned their backs on me too. Everyone is different so only you know who you can trust and who you can't, sometimes its hard to tell so be careful. If you do forgive and let them back in, remember, forgive but don't forget. Dont ever forget what they did or it just might happen again.
2007-03-21 18:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt let them back in for nothing!!! i had friends like this. i was always there when they needed ME but they werent there when I needed them. they arent true friends cuz if they were they would have been there by ur side to help u thru ur problems. id let them no how i felt about that and then tell them not to worry cuz since they werent there for u, u wont be there for them. just dump em and find some better friends. good luck.
2007-03-21 18:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by emilybailey1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. some people want only to have fun and spend good time.. but when you are in problem and need help or support or even advice, it is not fun any more for them..
these are not you friend.. so, even if you want to let them back in your life keep in mind that these are not friends and you can not depend on them.. just hang out with them and spend nice time.. and do a good search for real friends becuase you need at least one good friend in your life..
good luck
2007-03-21 18:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by Noha Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As tough as you feel it perhaps to do however you will have to simply staright out ask him!! " I feel that you just will have to of stayed with me for the period of this complex time and I think that you simply dumped me and left me all on my own. I wanted you to be there for me and you were not. Why is it so tough so that you can recognize that we're a pair and we will have to be handling those matters in combination." So possibly you will have to say your sorry and we will be able to move on with our lives by means of sharing all matters in combination. Try that. Let me recognize.
2016-09-05 11:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by pizzaro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't true friends, true friends hold your hand through thick and thin, the smiles and the pain. Whether you let them back in your life or not is up to you. Good luck...
2007-03-21 18:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by sweet heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are weak they're not capable of such trails that they snap. yeah, let them back but be more careful and try as much as possible not to trust them with all your being bcoz when things happen again they might snap again and it will only hurt you.
2007-03-21 18:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by alias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your friends if I were you. If they can't stick with you through thick and thin then they dont really care and love you. That's my opinion anyway. I could be very opinionated. Weee
2007-03-21 18:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by carlota_2312 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably the old human survival instinct. You can take revenge by taking back only those who can serve a purpose for you.
2007-03-21 18:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jumpin' in the Dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋