Why must we be the same?

Question

Why do so many women feel they need to be equal with men? Why do they want to do everything men do? I don’t think men are better than women, nor do I think women are better than men. They are just different. They each have their own strengths and weaknesses.

I think there are jobs that are far better suited for men than women and visa versa. For example… Why do women need to fight in war? Let the men do it! Also, I am not sure that I support women running for certain positions in government. Why? Because women tend to think with their emotions while men tend to think more logically. Neither response is wrong, but in some certain situations one works better than another.

Now by this question, I am not at all inferring that women are in any way inferior or should not be allowed to do things. Quite the contrary! I just don’t understand why women many women think that have to be the same. Why not be different? What is so wrong with that?

I think some people have misunderstood me. Either that, orI did not state my question clearly enough... I am not saying that women should not be able to make decisions, voice their opinion, try new things (anything they want for that matter), or have the opportunity to support themselves. Women's skill and opinions are extremely important and valuable.

Answer 1

The Gender Police want 50-50 representation in everything. Due to natural differences it's just not going to happen--but feminists see this as gender discrimination.

It seems that their whole house of cards is built on the myth that gender is a social construct.

My husband and I worked at the same place, same department, same shift for a while. We've had male supervisors and female supervisors, and we agree that men generally make better supervisors, because women tend to get more emotional. We used to compare notes.

He still works there, I don't.

I see what you're saying. I'm for equal opportunity, but I do not expect there to be equal representation--a sort of "affirmative action" for women.

Instead of trying to be more like each other (like men trying to "get in touch with their feminine side," whatever THAT means), we should celebrate our differences. They're complementary differences--they make up two halves of a whole!

Answer 2

Being the same is not equality!!! Do I think women should be able to pee standing up? NO! Do I think women should be able to cast a vote with the same bipartisan as men? YES! Sure, we of different sexes are fundamentally different, that's what makes us so great, there is yin and yang. As far as government positions goes, I think perhaps some emotion would do all the world some good. There is a saying that behind every great man there was a great woman, and I think that is true. We are here to compliment each other, and the only way we can do that is to have equal rights.

Answer 3

I think your right! This all goes back to women acting like women and men acting like men. You can't change the gender you were born with and even if you do you'll still be the same. I for one don't want to join the army because i don't think I could ever kill some one unless in extreme situations. I don't really have a problem with men in higher positions than myself because I'm very secure in my own self worth. I'm not threatened by men nor should I be.

Answer 4

You have asked some very good questions which I would love to see the gals at NOW answer. If you look at the NOW web site, it would be easy to see that without double standards, they would not exist. Oh they do want equal rights...for women. They also believe in rights and responsibilities. They get the rights, men get the responsibility to assure they keep all of the rights.

How? Look at their war on fathers. Fatherless homes have cause much damage in our society yet NOW wants even more of them. Their idea of an ideal father is a wallet. without the need to see his children. They say the that only reason fathers want custody of their children after a divorce is so they can keep abusing them. Newsflash here....moms do 2/3's of all child abuse.

But back to your question. Some women want to be equal (actually it is more that they want to be the same) as men because they do not understand the concept that equality does not always mean the same. Men and women have the same value but we are not equal just as a Humvee may have the same value as a family car but they are not equal. They are designed by their inventor for different functions, each of what can be very important .

By trying to make men and women equal, as much damage can be done as trying to make a fire truck interchangeable with a fuel truck.

Answer 5

Feminists (the majority) do not truly want equality with men. They use the word "equality" because it plays well politically and socially.

(After all, who could (or would) argue with the concept of "equality"?!?!)

Feminists (many, not all) want to continue to have "equal" opportunties with men and yet maintain the greater legal protections and social priviledges that women enjoy over (and sometimes at the expense of) men, but not necessarily have all of the same responsibilities and that men do.

(They would have more supporters if they were upfront about this since it is obvious anyway).

There are numerous examples of this. I can provide some anyone is interested.

Answer 6

]It's not that we want to to be men, it's just we want to have the freedom to have the options open to us without prejudice. Just as you think women aren't suited for a job that has been typically held by men, we would like to be able to make that decision for our individual selves. If a woman wants to be an astronaut, a pilot, or President, she should at least have the opportunity to try. Not everybody thinks or acts the same, be it men or women. If men want to be housewifes, why can't women earn the type of money that men do, to support their family.

Answer 7

I am proud of the fact your mind-set is in the right place. Taking stock in your capabilities and perhaps duties as our intended purpose. I actually remember when all this equality was being fought over. I didn't get to see any bra burning but the women's movement none the less was colorful. Some holy er than now women got tired of working for the man then someone like Helen Ready stirred up the Hornets Nest by the song, Woman hear me roar.

If you ask your grand mother she understood. Now I think if women want to put up, they do so and fight in the war, die for our country and earn that pay if they are so hell bent on wanting to be equals. But you know as well as I do of all those double standards. Would you respect a house dad? Most women wont and still don't.

Answer 8

we don't want to be the same. what we want is :

-to be able to walk down the street without people assuming they can comment on us or touch us or that we want to have sex with them

-to not be blamed automatically for being assaulted
-to be allowed to be sexual without being labeled a whore

-to be able to make our own medical decisions without doctors or the government questioning/regulating our choices

-to walk down the street without having to fear for our physical safety or fear being sexually assaulted whenever we see a member of the opposite sex

-to be able to have a job and a family without being called a bad parent or being paid less

-to be able to be paid/promoted based on merit, not the off chance that we may reproduce

-to not be judged for what we choose to do or not do with our body's reproductive capability

believe it or not, these are all things that have been experienced in the last two years alone by myself and women in my family, some of them on a daily basis. There are more to this list that i did not put down because i have not experienced them, nor have my family members but there is more. this is what we want, it isn't the same, but neither is it "special privileges"

edit- funny, im getting thumbs down for this when i have experienced it. Heads in the sand much?

Answer 9

i think an appropriate answer to your question must await an analysis of what you mean by "equal". you seem to equate being equal with being able to do what men do. clearly this is not always possible for reasons you mention. I consider myself equal with women yet i cannot bear children. i think that when women demand equality, they are asking for the same rights and privleges our country grants to any citizen (the right to vote, run for elective office, etc.). this equality will also give them the right to attempt any task they wish to. this equality will not guarantee them success in their efforts but it does guarantee them the opportunity.
I think the comment about women's thinking needs some serious rethinking on your part. Your own questions suggests that you are no stranger to logical thinking.

Answer 10

It isn't about being the same - it's about choice.

If one group is told - "You can only do this and not that (even though you are perfectly capable of it)" That is not just.

What would you say if they brought out a law which said that blue eyed people were not allowed to have children and brown eyed people were not allowed to go to school, would you feel it was fair?