I've been with her for 5years now and in the begining I wasn't completly faithfull, I am now and will cotinue to be but for some reason she keeps pushing me away and telling me "You only stay for the kids", I don't want to lose her but I'm running out of ideas and ways to fix it.
She's always telling me I'm her one and only but than gets this wild hair and wants to split. How do I find out why and how do I fix this before it just goes way to far and affects my kids?
2007-03-21 17:59:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really wont understand what you put your wife through until she has done the same to you and then and only then will you truly understand why she is acting this way. Were you unfaithful even after you had kids? I cant really help you unless I have more information about your relationship with your wife but I can say that if you want to save your marraige then I suggest seeing someone together to get professional outside help.
2007-03-21 18:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by itsSCIENCE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face the past without regret, handle your present with confidence.
Compromise. Both stay firm with it, but never get harsh. Go ahead and set an schedule with your wife to properly discuss it over. A good communication is a powerful tool, and the solution itself after all.
The reason why most relationship fail is because one loves too little and the other one loves too much.
Wishing you and your wife well with your relationship. And yep, keep the kids out from suffering on the supposedly yours (the couples) responsibilities.
2007-03-21 18:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by J.a.c.q.© 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the lady protesting to loudly? You may not be her only one. She either has a self-esteem problem or she needs some serious counseling. Send her flowers and bring her candy. Do something every day to make her aware of your devotion. It does not have to be expensive.
If your up first, slip a love note on her pillow,her purse or where ever she will be when she first gets up. Give her a 10 second kiss and tell her you love her often. Good Luck
2007-03-21 18:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by computer dummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have ya'll talked about having a wedding? Maybe she see's something on the other side of the fence who is willing to take on the role as her husband? Commitment and communication may be your answer???? Hmmm, maybe more sweet talking also, like" you sure look pretty today or how about"Come here sweetiw and let me kiss those pretty lips". What have you done for her lately????
2007-03-21 18:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she specifically know about your infidelities? If so, she may be rebelling in her own way against what had happened to her earlier. Talk to her and ask her what's on her mind and why is she going out of her way to make things more difficult than they need to be. Let her know how you feel about her and what you want for the two o you.
2007-03-21 19:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One possibility. Sometimes if women aren't feeling loved, they will (big surprise here) test their man to get a reaction that makes them feel loved. It's not a good practice, and I know guys HATE it...but we're not always logical. Perhaps try loving her in ways that she will interpret as love (romance without sex, doing chores without being asked etc.) and see if she still feels the need to test your love. Hopefully she'll come around the belief that appliances, not people, should be tested.
2007-03-21 18:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which is it your wife or your girlfriend? One way to help her know that you are in it for more than just the kids, is to marry her and make a solid commitment. If you are just living together she may feel that the relationship is unstable.
2007-03-21 18:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by katiebug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the past...you cheated.
You might be faithful now but it is easy to forgive and not forget.
You getting a little taste of the medicine you were delivering in your past?
2007-03-21 18:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she your wife or g/f ??
If you have been with her for 5 yrs. and have kids with
her and have not married her, then I totally understand
why she feels the way she does...
She is hurt and offended because you have not married her...
If she is your married wife, then there is something going on
that either you failed to mention or you do not know about...
2007-03-21 18:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is angry with your past deeds and you may not have asked for her forgiveness that is why she is resenting you. You have to prove your utter devotion to her and only her can your actions say this.
2007-03-21 18:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋