Would you let your spouse visit his/her ex without you?

Question

My wife wants to visit her ex boyfriend in Canada about 2000 miles away. They still kept in touch over the phone.

Answer 1

DEPENDS ON WHICH ONE OF HIS EXES.....HIS EX WIFE YES CAUSE HE HATES HER ..SOME OF HIS EX G/FS HELL NO LOL I TRUST HIM BUT NOT THEM ...LOL

Answer 2

If my spouse was wanting to go 2000 miles away with out me to visit thier ex I would be concerned as to why and re-elvaluate my marriage.

But, I would never stop someone from doing something just because we are married.

I would ask why they want to go that far away to visit an ex and with out me.

But, having a fit or demanding that they not go will make things worse.

Answer 3

I asked an awfully comparable question very final week. all of that's desperate by using the main factors of their relationship. How long interior the previous became as quickly because it, how long did they date, how historic have been they while they dated, is the ex inquisitive approximately absolutely everyone else, and a good form of others... some persons enhance physically powerful friendships with ex's and likewise you could might desire to envision out and be understanding. If it was once the ex from maximum magnificent formerly the two one in all you won jointly, it form of feels it could be much less desirable. in the journey that your companion is open and straightforward with you and the ex, then you certainly definately might have have been given to objective to settle for it. have faith me, I comprehend this is confusing, however the ex is likewise a magnificent guy or woman you ought to objective and get to charm to close too. If he's open approximately it, that's adequate. if your companion secretive approximately it, i could be in touch. magnificent success

Answer 4

No. If they are truly friends she won't mind sharing him and should be happy to introduce you. He is an exboyfriend and even though they are not having an affair going alone to another city or state or country to visit is a bit much for anyone to expect you to be okay about it. Its important though to be careful how you approach it with her. Tell you love her, how you feel about it without accusing her of wrong intentions. That will simply cause a big fight and she won't hear your side at all. Keep calm, share your feelings not your anger and see what happens. Like my mother always said (hate to admit she was right) Its not what you say but how you say it. Good luck.

Answer 5

That's crazy! My spouse tries to avoid even going to a restaurant alone with a man without some sort of accountability - another person there. You are tempting fate if you go along with this.

I'd get to the bottom of this desire for the former boyfriend right away if I were you. Are you trying to lose this woman?

Answer 6

Yes i would if i knew it was strictly platonic and if they had kids together but i personally would try to go with him if i could. Nothing like being there with your husband as a couple when you see the ex again. I feel that if you can trust your spouse then letting them go without you with them is fine but if they cannot be trusted then no they should not go without you.

Answer 7

What, are you joking? I have bad news for you, your marriage is over. You have to sac up and move on because you spouse, isn't "your" spouse any more, she isn't going 2000 miles for a "visit".

The answer is you cannot stop her from cheating on you, you have to get out of the relationship, it's over.

Answer 8

NOPE, i will not. I'm not willing to take any chances neither.

Trust is one thing, Temptation is another. Realistically speaking these two words distinctively goes in different direction, so why try so hard convincing myself that everything's gonna be fine when at the back of my mind somethin tells me it's just not eh?

I'm friendly, a snob when necessary. Well, try to visit "us" at home instead, perhaps i'll extend a li'l bit of my considerations and offer her a cup of unsweetened ginger tea. That gives more sense, than puttin on my best shoes dancing on Changing Partners waltz. Thanks man but NO, thanks.

PS: to my baby, y'know i love you but not givin in this time, sorry, not with this favor.

Answer 9

Totally depends on the reason for the visit.

A child invoved then yes, you can't stop that.

Traveling a far to visit when they have seperated, divorced or whatever then there is no sense to it. It shows they still have feelings for their ex

Answer 10

Depends on the reason why he/she would be visiting an ex with or without you. Depends on the relationship as well that they have. Maybe they remained friends. Maybe they still work together. But if you're susupicious or don't feel comfortable with it, talk to your spouse and tell her/him how you feel.

Answer 11

If they had kids or something, by himself/herself, then probably yes. If no, and he/she wants to see his/her ex for a friendly chat or whatever, why can't you come along? If you have an open an honest relationship, you should be just as much a part of his/her social life with anyone he/she is. If my partner requested to see his ex without me there, watch out!! :-) I always think, what do they have to hide..?