Anice girl with admirable beauty and profession.two beautiful kids,husband is partially disabled and a bankrupt,she is providing him every needs suddenly loneliness gripples and got a doctor as a chat friend, and things change but never met before-9 mths friendship only.she does not want to leave her husband whom she has been for years ,she likes her chat friend coz he does not demand marriage or any pleasures.what will be her future in!Family values-moderate.Her chat friend is a single guy who calls her every day from overseas spending few hours with her and kids.Is everything normal!please advice.
2007-03-21 17:55:10 · 11 answers · asked by cool_honeybabe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WTF? so you want to cheat? I really don't get this one. What do you want advice on? Should you cheat...no....should yo stick with YOUR family and dump the cyber fling....yes.
2007-03-21 18:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should ask themselves if their desires to chat are being selfish to their spouses/significant other, and ESPECIALLY the children.
If the man is single, it is quite likely he may develop feelings for the woman because he's alone. The woman who is married will most likely develop feelings for the man because although she's married, she feels a bit lonely because of hubby's disability. It's quite obvious if a single man is paying OVERSEAS phone rates to call everyday then he has already started crushing on her.
If a marriage is FAILING because of a FRIENDSHIP, that alone shows that more value is put into that FRIENDSHIP than the marriage. I don't think it's fair or right. They are basically saying to everyone, we WILL have this "chat relationship" regardless of who it hurts or whose marriage it destroys.
And it's especially wrong if that relationship is being used to gripe about and belittle the spouse. Nor should children ever be introduced to a person outside a marriage in a situation such as yours. Protect your children emotionally and physically. There are alot of pedofiles out there. Just take a peek at the news. Don't let feelings cloud your judgement. If someone is comfy enough letting their kids have contact with a person over the phone, then a meeting may be next.
Sounds a bit selfish and like BAD news to me. My 2 cents.
2007-03-22 01:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of sick people to make this world turn and hon you are the most selfish one of all .If you are so lonely find a female to talk to.It really makes me sick to see so many people out here destroying their marriage just so they can
f u c k someone different and that is all it comes down to . They don't want who they married anymore so they go out and find someone else.You don't care about your family or your kids and you sure in the hell don't care anything about your partner.Anyone who cheats are the lowest form of life on this planet.
2007-03-22 01:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if it bothers her hubby than she needs to stop. People seem to forget the vow "In sickness and in health." Think how she would feel if the table was turned. Maybe she should focus her time on her husband and not her chat friend.
2007-03-22 01:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ian and Tate's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from chat friend!!!
this is going to hurt and when it does the people who do get hurt are the people who don't deserve it !
IT'S CALLED CHEATING!
yes cheating and the chat friend knows it!
walk away now and never speak to chat friend again!
2007-03-22 03:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are just a step away from dumping your dear husband...jumping off with the deceitful internet friend,just watch out!!! you will end up being dumped by this unknown cyber (fantastic) boyfriend.
do the right thing sweetheart before you ruin your life!!!
2007-03-22 01:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by gaijin in tokyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pretend you were your husband and he was you.I wouldn't think you would have liked it.Even he is not close by,he has your attention.And another thing......you never said you love your husband.You said you just don't want to divorce him.I think that could be a problem.
2007-03-22 01:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are so happily marry then why are you on the internet
with this man. and if he so wonderful then why is he not
with someone or he telling you what you want to hear. time
to look at this for what it is. you need to do what is right.
2007-03-22 01:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, she's having an emotional affair which is cheating, and secondly it is not normal......why would someone make international calls everyday and expect nothing? There's more to this story.....
2007-03-22 00:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out! Little by little, all won't matter anymore except this person!
2007-03-22 00:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋