does this mean shes gay?

Question

DOES THIS MEAN SHES GAY?
OK I WAS GOIN OUT WITH A GIRL FOR ABOUT 3MONTHS BUT BEFORE I WENT OUT WITH HER WE HAVE LIKED EACHOTHER FOR A WHILE BACK SINCE WERE FRIENDS FOR A LONG TIME. AS WE WENT OUT SHE SHOWED ME ALOT OF THINGS AND ALOT OF FEELINGS FOR ME BUT SHE WOULD USUALLY SAY THAT SHE DOESNT WANT TO MAKE HER PARENTS ASHAME OF HER AND THAT SHE IS SCARED OF WHAT SOCIETY HAS TO SAY AND I HAD TOLD HER THAT I WAS NEVER GOIN TO GIVE UP BECAUSE SHE HAS TO FIGHT FOR WHAT SHE WANTS.. I WAS DUMPED AND HER EXCUSE WAS THAT SHE DIDNT LOVE ME AND THAT HER FEELINGS CHANGED. COULD THAT BE TRUE? OR COULD THE FEAR IN HER BE STRONGER?. WHAT CAN I DO TO GET HER BACK? OR SHOULD I LET IT GO?IS SHE GAY?

Answer 1

You apparently didn't spend enough of that time accully getting very close to her. On top of that it doesn't seem that you really understand what makes you "gay". If you had you would of be able to see it better in her. Understand that its been my experience that females can blur the lines of their sexuality without it damaging their egos, while strait guys just can't manage that. But all that aside you need to let her be true to herself, from what you said it would seem that she is a lesbian "gay" whatever you what to call it. And that if this is all true to heart you need to spend sometime reasuring her that this could be the chance of a lifetime for the both of you, not just some young experimentation, or a stupid mistake. But a situation that could carring you guys way past her parents and beyond the touch of society. Maybe it could be great.... its up to you intiution to figure out how thou.... but a good rule of thumb is the greatest fear in any human's heart is the fear of being alone. If you can take that away from her... well.... its worked for everyone esle...

Answer 2

As for her being gay or not, she most definately is bi, so thats all that matters foa a chance for her to be with you. Does she ever want kids?? Theres alot of reason and concerns that can come into play.... It is Very possible that the fear is great in her,, If she ever told you that she loved you, she will still love you,,, Were you her first girlfriend?? Give it some time and if she still wants to be with you then it may be possible to have her again, but be sure to always be there when she needs you, and always be her best friend first n foremost... Best of wishes n good luck.

Answer 3

No but you sure are, duh!
Back away from that girl and stay away! What makes gays so creepy is this predatory, 'Try it, you'll like it, baby, I can show you a good time' attitude. Do you have to crap on friendship in order to get in someone's pants - do you even know what friendship is without wishing you could get in her pants to show her a good time?
Thank God she dumped you. Her parents would have been ashamed of her, everyone would have had the same reaction about her when they saw her, 'Oh, there's the 'rhymes with Mike' - she's into girls. Long after she decided masturbation with you wasn't what she wanted out of life.
You were never going to give up? Did you stalk her like prey or did you just chain yourself to her front door? Did you even care about her future beyond what you'd be getting out of it - and we're talking sex here: must I repeat myself, do you even know the meaning of the word 'friendship'.
Good for her. You're going to have to refine your technique.
Does this mean she's gay? Get thee to a gay bar for definitions of gay.

Answer 4

she will come out when she is ready but she is fearful of all the things you said what her parents will think and society's opinion, you may or may not get her back she has to figure out some things for herself and only she can deal with them in her own way, all she can do is be true to herself and accept herself for who she is and not be ashamed of it enough to stand strong to let her parents know so she can be open with any relationship she has now or in the future....

Answer 5

I'm not trying to be blunt, but I think she has to get it together within herself, not you. Maybe she is fighting herself over her inner feelings, what her parents think, what society thinks. I'm inclined to believe you're correct in your guess. Is that really you, or are you just trying to satisfy your friendship you feel you're obligated to. You sound more together than that. Good Luck, and God Bless !!

Answer 6

She isn't comfortable with herself yet. Back off a little and give her time.

Answer 7

she has to live with herself. she will do what is right for her, and well should. you have to protect yourself these days, noone else will. if it was meant to be it will be. if not, then you have some good memories.

Answer 8

just like cheating. she found someone else to lick............