i am 14 almost 15 in august.. i am very skinny i am in 9th grade. i was a virgin untill i met this boy he is now 17 we were goin out for about 2-3 months and then i had sex with him but only 2 times.. when he found out i was prego.. he broke up with me and told everone. that i was gonna have a baby.. people like make fun of me now and he doesnt want this baby at all.. he had one of our friends hit me in the stomach to try and kill it..she said she was just joking and she forgot.. soo i quit goin to that school.. should i be embarrassed for all this.. i feel kinda depressed.. i am almost 2 months along.. idk if i could face any of mine and his friends ne more.. what should i do.. please help.
2007-03-21 17:40:05 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
this is what i kno about how my parents feel soo far..
As of now they dont kno y i wont do to school. they think i need medication and i am depressed and somthing has happened to me.. i wont tell them i am preganant because i fear they will hate me.. they both told my sister and i that if we get prego when we are under 18 we will no be allowed to live with them.. thats y i am not telling them. I Have an older 22 year old sister who knows.. but she made a promise she wont say ne thing.. she said if my mom kickes me out i can live with her. i want to keep the baby.. i am not getting an aborition. i dont belive in them. i dont want the baby to go up for adoption because god only knows what could happen to this baby.. i dont have a job but my sister said her and her boyfriend will help me pay for the baby if i help around the house when i get the time.. but i am still scared to tell my parents cuz i dont want them to hate me..how could i tell them soo they wont like hate me..
2007-03-21 18:19:56 · update #1
This guy is a loser. You should stay away form him. Tell your parents what that girl did to you and press charges if it isn't too late. Have your parents get restraining orders if you have to. You need to be safe for you and the baby. Don't let people get to you. They are only making fun of you because they feel inadequate.
2007-03-21 17:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to press charges!!! I know you don't want to because that was "your Friend", but she is not worth your friendship for some stunt like that. Keep your baby raise it up the best way you can because you never know what that child can or will be become!!! Children are a blessing from God! Loose the Loser too! It may take some time for you to get over this guy, but that is life. Just think about when your child grows up and be famous or something how he is gonna sit there and wish. Not only the child but you, too! You're young you have your whole life ahead of you. There is plenty of assistance for young single mothers all you have to do is ask!!! Just sit back and think when you come out on top they will all wish they could be apart of your success!!! I am cheering for you Girl!!! I want you do make it through this difficult time. I will also continue to pray for you, your family and the situation. Peace
2007-03-21 18:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Closure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your going to be a Mom then you need to start putting the babies needs first. Tell your parents and see what happens there, get prenatal medical care, go back to school even if its a different school. You are going to have to support yourself and the baby and working fast food will not cover it. You can get lots of help from the state and have your sister help you if your parents do not want to. Your so called friends and the father sound like jerks this is a very scary and life changing time for you and they are not helping the situation any. Good Luck
2007-03-21 18:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, just tell your parents. A friend of mine just went through this. Her mother said she would kick her out so fast her head would spin if she ever got pregnant, but to be honest, she took the news pretty well, and now she has a healthy baby and still has her parents love and care.
And look at it this way, if your parents have a problem, go to your sister. She seems very helpful.
Dont' worry, by the way. Your parents can not make you get an abortion, you're too far along.
2007-03-21 18:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by ShaBAM! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have been through a lot and while your feelings are important and you shouldn't ignore the pain you have, your main focus needs to be that precious baby! I recommend seeing a counselor this way you'll have someone to vent to and they can also help you to put all this into perspective. As far as your "friends" go.........Someone who hits you in the stomach with the intent to hurt you and your baby is not a friend and I hope you pressed charges against this person. You can also have your parents enroll you in a school for pregnant teens this way you not only get educated in your regular academics but they will also teach the basics of parenthood. Stay strong, Keep your head held high and go into this with strength and class and remember to love that baby and make him or her your absolute everything! You will survive this! God Bless You!
2007-03-21 17:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be embarrassed by a teen pregnancy. I am very sorry for you that you had unprotected sex at such a young age and are now dealing with the consequences. Things are going to be hard for you from here on out! You have a lot of decisions to make about your future and the future of your unborn child.
I hope you have told you parents and are able to have them as a support network while you work things through as far as whether you will raise the baby or give it up for adoption.
It's too bad boys don't have to suffer the same consequences when they also make the choice to have unprotected sex!?!?
2007-03-21 17:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you should not be imbarrassed about being pregnant. A babys a blessing and you getting pregnant happened for a reason or else you would'nt be. Dont let those jerks bother you. As for the girl who hit you in the stomach, you should press charges if not to late. Do your parents know your pregnant? If so, you should tell them what happened so they can take care of it. You should defently stay away from the babys dad and those who made fun of you because they are not real friends treating you like that.
2007-03-21 18:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by ** ButterFlyAngel ** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you are kind of sad and depressed. You are very young to be going through this. I'm so sorry that your baby's father is not there for you. Don't be embarrassed because that won't help anything. You need to connect with other girls your age who are pregnant and share your feelings and experiences with each other. Here is a web-site that might help:
http://members.tripod.com/xila/teens.html
Also, see if you live near a CareNet Pregnancy Center. They have counselors and lots of resources to help you.
http://www.care-net.org/
If you get the right help, you can do it. Don't try to do it all alone. I'm sure it's not the way you expected your life to go, but now you have to be strong and learn to become a mother. Your baby is depending on you. Don't let other kids push you around and put you down. I'm sure they are not perfect. I hope you have at least one friend who cares enough to still be your friend.
God bless you and your baby.
2007-03-21 17:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Moochas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think having a baby should be a wonderful experience.. and you ex is making it seem like something bad. You are young but that doesn't change the fact that you should be happy about it. What your friend did is really disrespectful and cruel. I understand that you wouldn't wanna go to school again. If there is another school in the area i would wait until after you have the baby and then go to that school instead. But its really up to you and your parents. But have courage. Don't be emarressed. You are about to bring a little miracle into the world. You have another life inside of you. I would think its an amazing experience. Have strength for yourself and your baby! GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-21 17:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by ANDREA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend telling your parents. See what happens. They may have said that your sisters couldnt live with them if they got pregnant, but when parents are actually faced with the problem, and see how scared, and hurt their baby-girl is, it makes all the difference in the world. If they say you cant live there anymore then go live with your sister, and try to make ammends with your parents as time goes on. I would also recommend that you think about going on homeschool and finishing high school that way you can suppport that baby when it gets older. I wish you the best!
2007-03-21 19:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Claire C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, pregnancy is a wonderful experience. You should not be embarrassed at all because there is a beautiful baby growing inside of you. soon the baby will see the world just like you were. What you need to do is to let your parents and his parents know about your situation because your unborn baby will be their GRANDCHILD. Hopefully both sides will come up with a solution to raise this beautiful baby just like your parents raise you. It will be a big responsibility. I know YOU CAN DO IT.
Nothing is more important than having a good education and a good mom toward your baby.
You know classmates can come a go but your unborn baby, your family, your best-est friends, and your education will always be with you no matter where you are.
I wish you well, and take care of your self and loves one.
2007-03-21 18:42:10 · answer #11 · answered by myart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋