We're both 23 and have been together for 3 years now engaged for 2 months. My fiancee was physically abused as a child by his father while his mother just stood by and as much as that hurt him he still loved her.She passed away last night and I have no idea what to do since my own mother died when I was a baby and I can't relate.How can I be there for him?
2007-03-21 17:31:13 · 8 answers · asked by Macy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just be there..lots of hugs...
2007-03-24 01:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Chef Combo S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try and listen to any concerns he might have....being there doesn't mean doing everything for him and feeling sorry for him.
You could also try to keep a routine around the home and keep him in some sort of routine with everyday life. In other words, try not to let him just lay around and be depressed. If he needs some sort of counseling, then look into that for him. Be supportive. Maybe, if needed, look into some kind of support group for this sort of thing.
It is important that you let him grieve, and in his own time and in his own way.
Do something fun maybe once or twice a week if your schedule permits. Take a walk with him...go out to dinner or to a movie.
2007-03-22 02:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been supportive, affectionate and loyal during the past 3 years, then you don't need to act any differently now.
She was not your mother and therefore you are not required to feel anything you would not feel naturally, that is, apart from being sad for your fiancee.
2007-03-22 00:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for the both of you. Your fiancee will grieve in his own way. There are no methods of operation for how to be there for him. If you want whats best for him, you have to know that HE knows what is best for him and not you. You can do no more then be there for him, and let him know that you are there for him in any capacity he may require in order to come to terms with the death and move on. Letting him know you care is the best anyone can do. Good luck to both of you in this trying time in your lives.
2007-03-22 00:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mid-Island- Marc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there. When he wants to talk just listen. When he cries console him. Just being there helps more than anything. Just be ready for whatever comes because when you lose someone close you go through many different emotions and you just need someone there who will listen to whatever it is you have to say or to hear about how you feel. Your doing it right now, Your careing.
2007-03-22 00:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by THE mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how emotional he is right now. whenever you get some time to be with him, try to talk to him asking him if he's upset. here's a line i suggest: "are you okay? tell the truth." and always remind him that you'll be there for him if he needs someone to talk to. dont bother him every single hr or so about it though.
hope he cheers up. it might be a long process before he does.
2007-03-22 00:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by cognition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unconditional love and forgiveness.
2007-03-22 00:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by laportama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there
2007-03-25 18:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by Juliette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋