I am my husband work from 9am to 6pm. We take the train together and i will get down a station before him. We make a pratice to meet up together to head home.
Once i am home, i start my cooking. By the time i shower and eat my dinner it will be 10pm. We sit to watch tv,then head to bed around 10.45pm. On sat and sun my hubby and i don't work. On one weekends i will stay at home to do my other house work and the other weekend i will go to meet my own family who is my mum,dad,sis and bro. My husband won't follow me after some misunderstanding he had with my parents. But my parents will actualli look forward for him but he doesn't wish to come. I will go to see my family on fri after work and return back on Sun evening.
Just a while ago, i asked my husband if i can to voluntary service as i was doing it on my younger days and stopped after my working hrs were not a fixed one. I asked him if i could start back again under the Goverment Voluntary Service.
He jst simply replied me NO!
2007-03-21 17:25:53 · 7 answers · asked by sUnseT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When i asked him y.. he jst told me that i don't spend enought time with him.. I seriously don't get it. I was a Tv Drama actress before marriage. I stopped after he told me that we won't have time for each another. And now this! I love to act! That is my DREAM. I can't do that because of not enough of spending time. Then wat can i do.
My husband just told me that i have not set my priorities right.. I jst don get it. He told me that the reason why he doesn't hang out with his friends on weekends because he wants to spend his time with me. That means all my likes are gone is it? i jst don get it. I don't hang out with my friends wen i get the time to. Then why not i do voluntary service??
I am 22 years old. My hubby is 23 years old. We are married for 6 months.
Pls advice, genuine advise pls.
2007-03-21 17:33:38 · update #1
You can do anything, but you pay the price for your dumb decisions, and reap the benefits for the good ones. You can cut off your hand, but you are going to be a slower typer for the rest of your life.
Its a truly childish thing to say "I can do anything I want, and you are not the boss of me". You are married, both of you are. As much of a pig as he is in how he communicates, he has communicated an important key to marriage: he is giving up the less worthy (friends) to serve the more important (you).
Thats the key, and the adult thing. Imagine that your roles were truly reversed. How would you feel if you are doing your best, doing what you can to get by, and then your spouse makes moves to create huge gap between you two. How do you feel about that idea? Is it filling your heart? Is it validating your hard work for him, and love of him, and commitment to him? Doesnt it feel like a rejection?
So here is the million dollar question: How do you serve him AND fill your heart? How do you make it a win-win?
Once you can phrase the question properly, then you are quite able to find the answer. If you need suggestions, email me.
2007-03-21 18:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much of your together time would be used in your voluntary time? You also state you go to your parents through the weekend, and the other weekend you do housework..why don't you plan to do something TOGETHER for an entire weekend other than housework or going to see YOUR family... and why not fix this problem between your husband and your family? Why don;t you visit HIS family once in a while and follow you to your families place, you can't ride together? There seems to more to the story..Good Luck!
2007-03-22 00:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need his permission to do anything. If he wants to be stubborn about your family that's his problem and if you want to volunteer, do it. A marriage lisence isn't a certificate of ownership. It's your life and whether you share it with him or not, you still have needs and you still should be doing that which makes you happy. You have to decide how you want to live.
2007-03-22 00:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with your husband, before he leaves you.
2007-03-22 00:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it.
don't make this a problem. you seem to have a good relationship and you already have plenty on your plate right now.
2007-03-22 00:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont need his permission to do this, if you want to then
do it, you have asked him, unless he has good reason that
he does not want to then do what you think is best. you will
be blessed.
2007-03-22 00:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess no is the answer then, personally I wouldn't have asked, would have mentioned it, but wouldn't have asked for permission; you asked for an answer, yes or no and got it..it was no.,
2007-03-22 00:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋