Hi I'm in need of other peoples opinions in my current situation. I'm 25, have a "good" job(with no benefits), a beutiful 3yr old daughter, another baby on the way in 3 months, and a house. So I am in a better situation then some people. ok...question...I am thinking of joining the ARMY for more reasons than 1, for my family(benefits), for myself(because i've basically done absolutly nothing with my life), and also if sucessful completion of service(dont die) my little ones can have a father to look up to not just a dead beat dad thats content with nothing. I have spoke with recruiters and the ARMY is the only one who will accept me(due to the fact that the only thing i did do in my life was get in trouble)but that part of me i have chose to defeat. I do understand that I'll probaly have to leave my family for a while and miss a little of these importat times in their lives but im doing this for them. In that away time I want to take advantage of it and get a degree under my belt. HELP
2007-03-21 17:24:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off how can you say you have done nothing with your life? You have a beautiful 3yr old daughter, a baby on the way....and I am guessing a loving caring wife....Now that's something! You also said you have a "Good" job...that's something too. Listen....take it from a old fart that raised 5 kids.....they look up to you as long as you love them....are there for them when they need you....and do the best you can....that's all you have to do.
Best of luck
2007-03-21 17:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by oldman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
But, you HAVE done something with your life...you've created 2 children who need you. I wouldn't suggest going into the Army now that you have 2 small children. How about the National Guard? After training, you give one weekend a month, that way you'll be home to watch your kids grow.
You won't be able to recapture the years that your kids grow and develop. Keep that fact in mind.
2007-03-21 17:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say follow your heart, dreams, and desires, and ask your wife for her support. If she supports you, she's a keeper. If not, that's another story. My husband has been in the Navy for 15 years and it's great. Especially living in military housing. No rent, no electricity, no gas, sewage, need I say more? Save, save, save! Not to mention the advantages of being over seas. We are currently residing overseas. It is whew.....need I say more. Be like Nike and just do it!
2007-03-21 23:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have thought through all the possible negative outcomes of your decision ie: death, possible divorce, mental complications and are comfortable with them then I would say yes join the Army. How does your wife feel about this. will she be okay with this decision. if the answer is again yes then join.
The military does have some excellent benefits.
best of luck in your decision
2007-03-21 17:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children will not remember if you were there for their 1st steps, words, etc. But they will be influenced by the example you set - being in the service is certainly a better example than being a dead-beat.
2007-03-21 17:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't Be The Next Army Slab of Fresh Meat!!!!!!!!!
They're trying to push even Parents toward saying okay! I say HELL NO!!!!!!!! You KNOW where you're going, right????????????
You can be a Great DAD at HOME where your Family Needs YOU!!!!!
Can I say this ANY plainer????!!!!!!!
2007-03-21 18:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are growing up, good job - go for it!
2007-03-21 17:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋