Hi I'm in need of other peoples opinions in my current situation. I'm 25, have a "good" job(with no benefits), a beutiful 3yr old daughter, another baby on the way in 3 months, and a house. So I am in a better situation then some people. ok...question...I am thinking of joining the ARMY for more reasons than 1, for my family(benefits), for myself(because i've basically done absolutly nothing with my life), and also if sucessful completion of service(dont die) my little ones can have a father to look up to not just a dead beat dad thats content with nothing. I have spoke with recruiters and the ARMY is the only one who will accept me(due to the fact that the only thing i did do in my life was get in trouble)but that part of me i have chose to defeat. I do understand that I'll probaly have to leave my family for a while and miss a little of these importat times in their lives but im doing this for them. In that away time I want to take advantage of it and get a degree under my belt. HELP
2007-03-21 17:23:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The only problem with your reasoning is that you are assuming you will return to your family alive. What if you get killed?
You're not a deadbeat dad because you're genuinely trying to provide a better life for your family. Why don't you try finding another job that provides decent benefits?
Just because you enlist in the Army doesn't necessarily mean you'll get a degree. Think long and hard before you sign on any dotted lines. Think about your kids and their futures. I'm sure things will work out for you.
Just follow your heart...and your head.
2007-03-21 17:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult question to answer. I think it is great that you want to make choices that are best for your family. What does you wife want you to do? I know if I had a 3 year old and one on the way I would not to see my husband join the Army especially at this time of war.I'm guessing when you say you have a 'good job' you are meaning it pays well. Can't you get another 'good job' doing something you have experience with that has benefits. Now if you were saying you wanted to join the army because you felt it was your duty to serve your country then I would by all means say go for it. However if you are using it to get ahead for your family then I don't know, I here the pay in the service is not really that great and it takes a long time to be able to go to school and get a degree. I would say do your research first then make your decision, Good luck to you.
2007-03-21 17:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great idea, apart from the fact that you will be representing a group which values the killing of innocent human lives through acts of terror and violence. Missing the important parts in your children's lives is will be more crucial than you think because wether they look up to you or not, they will not have a father around to help guide them. I can see why you would want to get benefits (who doesn't?) but I wouldn't advise you to do it. There are other ways you can get a job with benefits, provided you work for it.
2007-03-21 17:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must accomplish your very worthy goals, no matter what it takes. Your children are here now and you can't run from your responsibility to be with them, in order to fulfill your responibility to them. You are going to have to work around it.
YOU CAN DO IT.
2007-03-21 17:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nowpower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have become a man.
2007-03-21 17:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by nancy jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋