a friend of mine asked me what i would do and i really don't know what to tell her
she is married she has a son
her husband knows she feels like this and he know why
she said she just wants him to know that he don't have to be sorry for what he done and that she forgives him but she still loves him
i understand the love part i really don't understand the rest she swears she don't want him back she just needs to let him know
PLEASE HELP WHAT DO I TELL HER?
2007-03-21 17:01:07 · 8 answers · asked by country-girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God yes and I will love the man forever, we may not have been good for each other our hearts were.. My new husband knows I will always love my ex too, ever tho we can not stand each other.. there are alot of things that go with that..we have children together so that might make the difference too.. There was once I went to his house to get the kids and he didnt have them packed to come home, so I went to pack them and I forgot that I didnt grab there bags so I went to walk down the hall way and I ran right into him at the corner, at that moment it would have felt so right for him to grab me and hold me and never let me go.. BUT I knew it was not right.. we divorced for a reason and as for your friend we know the reason... good luck getting the answer to this you want, or was hoping because love has no boundaries, closing something that is opened is always the right thing in my book, let her do it if she needs..
2007-03-21 17:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you really love someone the love that you had for them will never stop. Although it will be different not that she is still "IN LOVE" but more of a friend love. You just can't take away all feelings for a person you once had. It just changes the kind of love they once felt. I think it's good she can move on and be happy with no hangups on the past. Let her tell him, so there will be some closure there.
2007-03-22 00:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will always be something there between my first love and me, but I chose a different life with a different person. I could never purposely contact him again, that would be putting myself in a situation where I could end up hurting the man I married and had children with. It's easy to look back and remember the good times with someone else, especially when things are strained with your spouse. I have no doubts I married the right person and I would never share my feelings for my ex with my husband, it would only hurt him.
2007-03-22 02:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Krissi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave the past in the past.
It wont make things better in her marriage to do this now.
She should have made sure she got closure before she got married.
She has a family to focus on now, and needs to leave well enough alone. I am sure the ex is just fine. She doesnt need to contact him.
2007-03-22 00:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been a longtime since the first love!!!I think I'm way past that. Something morecurrentwould probably be more of a problem.
2007-03-22 00:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her reasoning is just an excuse to contact an old lover. Both parties survived just fine without the knowledge that she wants to share, so why bring it up now?
I would be mad as hell if I were her husband.
2007-03-22 00:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell her to concentrate more on the present than the past. If she continues on this path she is probably going to lose everything. the past is best left in the past when it comes to old relationships.
2007-03-22 00:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she just wants to close the past. whats done is done.
2007-03-22 00:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋