We all work together in an office, and their job require them to work together more. She's younger than me, and married too but plays the victim cutsie roll with all of the guys in the office and they all hang on her every word. My husband thankfully isn't one of these guys but she does tell him "you're my favorite co-worker" blah blah blah... He says sometimes, he does feel a bit undcomfortable. I don't feel that he would cheat or stray, I just don't want this to consume me. I don't want to hate her, and I don't want to be mad at him. But there is this part of me that wants to slap her face! How do I handle this???
2007-03-21 16:56:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I hate to tell you this, but the problem is really not with the girl but with your husband. Now I'm not saying he is a bad guy or anything like that but he could go a long way is getting this girl to change her behavior toward him. Since this girl is married, perhaps at a moment when she is being flirtatous with your husband, he should look at her and candidly ask her why she acts this way especially since she's married. And if he were especially feeling brave he might continue with, 'Does your husband care that you flirt with every man you work with?" and if he is feeling really really brave, he might add that he is "so thankful that he never has to worry about his wife that way'. But if you can't get him to go this far with the conversation, maybe you can at least get him to understand that she acts this way with him (and the others) because she thinks they like it and that its okay with them. He needs to do something that gives the message that not everyone thinks she's as hot as she thinks. Even if it's just in his body language. If he is willing to do all of the above, a really classy thing for you to do, is be really nice to her. I'm not saying for you to be insincerely nice, but just be friendly on a professional level, partly so she can save face ( I have a feeling she is just young and immature) and partly to show her she is no threat to you and your husband.
2007-03-21 17:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your husband if he would be willing to say something to her. Something like "I'm not comfortable with flirting, because I'm happily married." That should shut her right down.
2007-03-21 17:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't need to deal with this but ur husband does. Trust him? If u do, then she is not a threat. Good luck!
2007-03-21 18:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Nora C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u go girl! but i think u should share how u feel about that girl to ur husband, juz to make clear to him that u could do anything if something happend to ur family.
2007-03-21 17:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either befriend her, or call her out straight up and probably make an idiot of yourself.
2007-03-21 17:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Leah~Ariana is due Oct. 09~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like Diamond's answer
2007-03-21 17:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by ~∂Їβ~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well until she really stepped out of line with your hubby i would ignore her . then if she steps out of line i would beat the H E L L OUT OF HER .
2007-03-21 17:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always keep your enemies close. Befriend her.
2007-03-21 17:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i woulld let your husband talk to her about this, since she is
talking to him. then watch and see what happen.
2007-03-21 17:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let them get away with that!
2007-03-21 17:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Brittany💖 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋