My husband and I have been married 5 years. Today I opened our email to see he had sent fwds from work. When I opened them, they were power point slide shows of naked women. The first was 30 or so pics of a brunette, the second was 15 or so pics of a blonde... both were in various stages of being dressed and completely nude. The subject of the second was "Poolside Beauty CARFUL" which I later found out the "careful" meant don't let your wife see this. You see, the last shot of the blonde had a caption with it. It said "Hey babe, so when are you going to leave your wife for me?" When I confronted my husband he said he didn't know what it was when it was sent to him at work because he doesn't have power point. If he had known, he never would have looked or sent them home. He sent them here to see what they were. I know stuff like this gets sent to him all the time and he has no control over it, but he acted like it was no big deal even though I'm upset. Would you be mad?
2007-03-21 16:27:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah id be upset, but i think he's telling the truth, i mean he'd have to be insane to send that home KNOWING what it was , Knowing u'd see it , or could see it, so i think he didnt know what it was... If anything u should be mad at the person who sent it to him, as this is disrespectful to your marriage, but id let ur husband off the hook, and to him it wasnt a big deal cause he didnt do anything wrong, in his eyes, and because its not his feelings being hurt its always easy to see things as not a big deal when ur not the one feeling like crap on the inside..
2007-03-21 16:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I no you don't want to believe that your husband keeps this kind of trash on his computer none of us wives do .How many times have you read right here on Q&A about a wife finding porn on their husbands computer. I no I have read at least 20 so far and everyone says the same thing.Their husband knew nothing about the pictures and don't intend to keep them including my own husband. B U L L S H I T ! they all no what they have and how it got there.What will it take for you to believe your husband looks at the most gross and hideous and offensive pictures they can find.The more dirtier and shocking they are the more they want.You no deep down your husband knew what that e- mail was.No one in their right mind will send something to his computer without knowing what it is it's to dangerous.Your husband just got caught before he could get home so he could hind the pictures from you.I bet he has a lot more pictures on his computer that you no nothing about. I no my husband does i just can't find them but i will and when i do i will delete them like i did with the ones i have found so far.If their are some places you can't go because you need a pass word then that is where they are and if you ask he will tell you it's just his work and 9 times out of 10 us wives will let it go.Never trust a man when it comes to the opposite sex even your husbands they are the worse.No wife wants to think she married a pig.
2007-03-21 17:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has no prior history of looking at this kind of stuff or if he has stayed away from it for a while, I would give him the benefit of the doubt. It is very likely that he is telling the truth. I know there are things that people have sent to me that I had to look up on a different computer because mine did not have the right program. Maybe you could ask him to ask that co-worker not to send any more emails like that in the future. After all if you don't have trust in a marriage you don't have anything at all. Forget about the whole thing and don't keep wondering if he really knew what was in the email or not. Now if it happens several more times, you know he is covering something up.
2007-03-21 16:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Allie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, now, lets see, where those pictures home made or they are professionally taken?
If they really look homemade, and are from one girl only (only the same girl is on all the pictures), and you are sure they are from a “real” person, then you do have reasons to be mad and to question him.
But I bet you those are professional porno pics, professional porno models, and many different girls as you said that particular e-mail was. And better, is a Power Point slide presentation. So, why are you worrying?
Those are sent all the time from friends to friends and even as spam. Many companies blocks them, but sometimes they go through. Does he has Power Point at work? No? I doubt it. Can he see naked women at work? Hell no! So what is the reasonable thing to do? Send it home to see it in privacy.
Is he smart. No, he is not because he should have an account that is hidden from you to do this things if he is going to be a child and never tell you.
Guys will always be guys (I know, I am one), so we always like to see naked women. Is exiting and like it or not, you women should accept it, just like we need to accept we have to be more romantic with you girls.
I myself receive many e-mails like that from friends. My Wife knows it, she is not happy about it, in fact, she is not happy about the fact that my friends do that, but not about the pics themselves. I watch them with her, and she is ok with it. Why? Because she even downloads porno videos just for me. She knows they excite me, and she does it when she wants to get me hard… LOL. Of course, is not all the time, she rather take pictures of herself and send them to me, or just give me a live show, but sometimes some extra porno is good, and sometimes, she even gets excited out of it.
I suggest you talk to your husband, and tell him that if he wants to watch porn, or naked women, that he should let you know, instead of hiding like a baby. You two are adults, and as long you two know the limits, and don’t cheat, and love each other, then what harm can some pictures do? I think none, but everybody is different, so you must decide it for yourself.
Good luck, and next time you send him pictures, I bet he will be happy, and more if you are in them. Just make sure to mark them as “not suitable for work”… LOL
2007-03-21 17:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dan D 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes this would make me mad and very upset and hurt. I would wonder why he is doing this and did not tell me about it and why he hid it from me. He may be cheating on you as well. He has control over what he allows to be sent though and he can block or delete it for goodness sakes. he does not have to look at it and if he is choosing to that is not a good thing at all.
2007-03-21 16:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would definitetly bother me.. but I do think you should give him the benefit of the doubt... when I was newly married.. some guy from my old messenger randomly sent me a picture of his penis.. I had no idea why he would do that, but he did.. and my husband opened it.. he was upset of course.. but I explained that I had nothing to do with it.. he got over it after a while.. but I know that sometimes things like that do happen...
2007-03-21 16:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by CSS 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 07:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to tell you this but the same thing happen to my first marriage. (notice i said first) well my hubby denied it big time. well to say no more we got a divorce because he ended up having an affair with someone on the x-rated website. and i was a fool and just kept saying ah he wouldnt do anything. just watch it. i would figure out how to see where he has been on the internet. i would check it daily without him knowing and just see what happens. also keep checking his emails if he doesnt change the passwords on you. just watch yourself and dont get sucked into his lies. im not saying hes lieing but what im saying is cover your own butt first. :)
2007-03-21 16:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your over reacting. Thats whats wrong with this world. Its just a powerpoint. And he forwarded it so he can check his stuff at home. He didnt have anything to hide cause he sent it to the email you both use. If he wanted to hide it. He could have made a different email account and you would have never known about it.
2007-03-21 16:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by savc_port 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
No, I wouldn't have gotten mad. Guys send each other stuff like that all the time. You're husband already told you why he sent it home.
Let it go. Don't make a bigger deal out of this than there needs to be.
2007-03-21 16:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋