I guess I'll start with the backstory, because talking about this seems to be the only way to make the pain go away for a brief moment. Jayson and I have been best friends since third grade. We met each other in Ms. Danube's class, and immediately got along great. We almost always got into trouble together, getting put on time out for making each other laugh hysterically.
Fast forward to now, at age 19, and we still make each other laugh. Since neither of us have moved out yet, we'd spend the night at each other's house all the time, since we both have rough family lives and need a positive presence in our homes.
But last night, Jayson went out drinking with some buddies. Unfortunately, driving was also on that night's schedule. Long story short, he wrapped his car around a telephone pole. They say he was dead on arrival.
I'm doing my best to keep my faith, for I know that the Lord is watching over Jayson right now, but I'm just so damn lonely.
Any words of kindness, please.
2007-03-21 16:24:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My dear Friend, I had the same experience as you except mine was a girl named Helen. She and I grew up together,and were the best of friends when someone drunk as a skunk killed her while she was crossing the street. I wept buckets,I felt lost, Icouldn't sleep nor eat. and I became seriously depressed. My folks brought me to a Therapist who put me on some medication (which made me feel better) and let me talk about what I was feeling and let me cry when I wanted. He was a wise man, and helped me make Peace with my loss. I urge you to get some help. There is nothing wrong with sharing your sorrow with a professional. The pain will ultimately go away, and the happy memories will always be with you. Good Luck.
2007-03-21 16:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for what happened. This must be really hard for you. You won't be sad for the rest of your life, but you will always remember your friend. Do something in Jayson's honor- spread the word about how drunk driving is fatal. It will really be okay. You will probably cry and get angry, but NEVER blame yourself for what happened. In the future, you will be back to normal and although you are done grieving, you will remember what a great friend Jayson was. Jayson would want you to be happy, right? And Jayson is for sure in a good place now. Being with God is so much better than Earth, and remember that you will again be able to see him again one day! It's okay to cry. But make sure that you talk to people instead of just keeping your emotions inside yourself. I am sorry for what happened, but Jayson is in a better place now. Find friends at school to hang out with and talk to, and you will eventually get over this sad event. I hope this helps. :)
2007-03-21 16:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Moi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gandolft so sorry to hear about your best bud. To be honest there is nothing I can say that will help with the hurt. This is a time issue. You will have a lot of emotions to go threw. Every one is different. Right now its best to give yourself a break. The next couple of days are going to be difficult with the funeral and all. Just keep in mind he is still with you just in a different way. You also are very blessed to have had a friend like him. Don't forget the good times and don't dwell on the bad. He would love to see you laughing hysterically again and you will know he is there when you do. But it all goes back to time. You may have different emotions sad,lonely and mad at what has happened. Just remember its part of the grieving process so go easy on you. This is going to be one of the hardest things you have ever done in your life and you will feel lost. Hang in there! Once again, I am so sorry for your loss. Keep talking, keep loving and especially in time, keep laughing.
2007-03-21 17:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you and your loss. I lost a good friend (also happened to be my boss) about this time last year- and it was terrible.
Talking through it is a great help- being honest with your grief is the only way to be healthy.
I wish I could say do X,Y and Z and you'll feel better in 4 days, but you won't.
Right now this is the biggest part of your life, and it sucks. It will always suck, but over time it will become less and less of the only thing you think about. You will never replace him, but learning to keep living is a great statement of respect for those that have gone on.
Dude, that sucks. I am sorry.
2007-03-21 16:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by rris-tusla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your friend, but know this, no one is ever dead as long as you keep them alive in your heart. It is their memory within you that he is still able to live. Your friend would want you to learn from his mistake of drinking and driving. Keep him alive always in your heart. It will take some time, but you will get through this. You have yet to go through the stages of grieving, and I would suggest that you look it up on the Internet....so that you will know what is to come, and it will help you be prepared for all the stages.
don't loose your faith......Jayson is with you always.
2007-03-21 16:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really sorry for u. =( well it's good that you're beliving in God to take care of him. I bet you feel really really really sad because Jayson must have been you're best friend. But we have to move on. I say still remember him but try and make new friends. Also put a smile on your face and live life to the fullest because the memory is always in the heart.=)
2007-03-21 16:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Terisha Kolencherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I am really sorry this is very hard for you i know it willl take a long time for you to maintain a more normal life after this blow i will telll you now justs keep in your mind that he will always be watching over you and you will never be alone in life. and just make sure too realize life is short so enjoy it while its there.
2007-03-21 16:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by beautiful me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, this is to "K". did you read anything this person wrote? like the "my best friend passed away today" part? this wasn't an invitation for your oppinion on what god does about drunk drivers.
okay and for the asker i'm sorry to hear about your friend. i can't say i know how you feel but i can immagine that you're going through a lot right now.
2007-03-21 16:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by i_play_6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just remember the good times you had with your friend Jayson. It is okay to be sad and grieve for him.
2007-03-21 16:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray and relax. You don't know, if he is going to survive or not.
Well, drink-driving is bad and sure, people die from it. Hope he survives, but you need to pray to God.
Don't sit here on the net to get some kindness really. Due to bad drivers like your friend there, other innocent people "died". Do you or your friend have or had feelings for them?
Think again and hope you understand. I also hope that once your friend survives, he is NOT EVER going to repeat this.
Take it away, God :) Your turn to show justice. "Bad driver" on trial??????? Show mercy and bring him back to life???? In my opinion, I DO NOT BLOODY THINK SO :@
2007-03-21 16:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋