I am broken off with my sons dad b/c he wanted to fulfill his sexual needs with somebody closer to him. Anyway, today he was on the phone with our son and at first I picked up as usual and talked to him about what we're doing when he called and then I gave the phone to our son.
During their conversation I could hear someone just pressing buttons and it wasn't our son, I took the phone and it wasn't him, but it was his jealous ***** being stupid and immature. It had to be cuz he tried to play it off when I asked who was doing that like my son was still on the phone. I know she is very jealous of me b/c he tells me that and that they argue every time he speaks to me.
Now why would a "grown woman" do that mess to a 9 yr old? I have told the man to keep her in check and that if she continues that petty crap he can't call here. What would do if you were him or me?
BTW, he is tired of her sh!t but afraid to go to jail if he tries to kick her out b/v he is a felon and she threatend him.
2007-03-21 16:04:52 · 14 answers · asked by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You did the right thing. I wouldnt allow my child to talk to his father if someone else was interferring with the conversation. No sense in making your son suffer because his father has chosen to be with someone so immature. So you talk to his father at a time your son isnt around, and explain that if he wants to speak to his son, he needs to do it at a time she isnt around. You cant control who your ex wants to be with, but you can control the phone time of your son. You have to do what is best for your son! Take care and good luck!
2007-03-22 04:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I know I would put my foot down real quick and hard if he can't control his woman over the phone he sure can't control her if the kid is at his house.
I hate that people act like this. hook a tape recorder up to your phone, tape this behavior go to court and ask that his contact with your son be restricted to when she is not around.
Make sure you are loaded with evidence. If your kid tells you things tape every word that comes out of his mouth.
I honestly can't believe that a man would allow someone to treat their child in such a manner. I don't think he is afraid of going back to jail if he puts her out, that is just an excuse he is passing out.
All he would have to do is prove that he either owns his house, or the lease is in his name, Go to the police station ask them to accompany him to his home while he asks her to leave the premises. The police are there they see what is happening they see the condition she is in and they will remain there until she removes all her personal belongings from the home.
If the house is in her name well then how hard is it for him to just walk right out the door.
2007-03-28 17:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a shame when parents who make the decision to get divorced drag the kids through more crap than what they need to go through. I too am divorced and I understand how hard it is.
You can not control nor are you responsible for the actions of your ex or anyone he may choose to bring into his life.
The ex is going to have to decide who is more important to him his son or his gf. Hopefully, he chooses his son and with that choice also chooses only to bring supportive and caring people into the life of his son. It is really a shame. Divorce can be trying enough on children w/o the parents acting like juveniles.
Ultimately, all you can control is what goes on when you are with your son. That is one of the hardest parts of a divorce . . .losing the ability to protect the kiddos from ignorance that they should not have to deal with. Hopefully, dad will make the right decision and do what is best for his son.
2007-03-29 04:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by sparkles9 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you probably did the stylish and precise element. it form of feels obvious you weren't going to delight in the occasion with psycho brat and strategies ineffective mom there besides so ideal element to do is bail. while handling uncontrolled little ones and clueless mothers and fathers you're in a no win venture. I probably might have began coughing on the newborn and suggested i became sorry to the mummy however the drugs the surgeon gave me for my bronchitis might take a minimum of each and every week formerly the an infection even began to sparkling and that i should not be around babies as their little immune systems are so susceptible to persistent respiration illnesses, cough, cough. As for the age element, have faith me, human beings have been guffawing at her. next time somebody asks you your age tell them 'old adequate to appreciate extra useful than to publicly ask a woman her age', cough, cough, oh sorry, have been given slightly phlegm on you there, expensive?
2016-11-27 21:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually that is his fault (ur ex) ... he had to show her his priorities and loyalties to his child from the get go...this way she would of learned to respect that matter. and no matter how jealous or how immature she is she would know better... so maybe your ex should of put her *** on check to begin with and there wouldn't be this problem.........now about them arguing over phone conversations between you two, that's another story....... you don't know exactly what goes on in that relationship or even how the arguments start .. all you know is what he tells you ....but behind closed doors is the real deal....
like i said b-4 he should taught her to respect this part of his life..... and to make matters worse he's a felon who is being threatened by this witch.... he needs to loose her and he can if he really wanted to.. it just a matter of getting it done....ain't nothing to it but ot do it !!!!!!!!
2007-03-29 04:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by GAL PAL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is she 2 pushing buttons messin w/ a 9 year old.Tell him to get rid of her it should be his son and not her who cares if he has a record his child should come first. Let her threaten him if he throws her out good whos name is on the lease if its him he has nothing to worry about.Change the locks when shes out and put her stuff on the curb.If he has nothing to hide and nothing to be guilty of then he won't have to worry about going back to jail. HIS CHILD SHOULD COME FIRST!!!!!!!!!!! Tell him he can't have his cake and eat it too.
2007-03-29 04:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by mamadukes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to come to an understanding that it was you and your ex who broke up - divorced, not your son. Some people just don't get it. But then again why does the father allow this to happen. They need a good switching.(figure of speech)!
2007-03-27 10:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too bad that she can't get a hold of herself. She obviously feels threatened by your relationship with the dad, and alot of times people in that situation just feel like their partner is using the child to maintain a relationship with their ex. There isn't much you can do to make her feel more secure, that's something she has to work on herself.
2007-03-27 07:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you cant make people grow up ,but at the same time you cant control what other people do ,but you're son is old enough to make up his own mind and make some decisions for him self ,let you're son decide when enough is enough and in a sense stay out of it you do not want you're child to resent you later down the road
2007-03-27 08:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's his father, you have no right to keep your son from bonding with his father just because you don't like your ex's latest. What in the world are you thinking, you've already picked a felon to be his daddy to grow up like now you want to do this too? WOW!! you all need counseling and to just chill.
2007-03-29 13:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋