I was told at only 43 years old that ....due to a brain certain annerisium that I only have a few years left......what would you do ? I have to work versus time to do things that i havent done vs.saving money for my death and everything that goes with this.......anyone going through this.....and can help in the 1-2-3 of the way you do this thing .......help me please....thank you with all my heart.
2007-03-21 15:30:01 · 20 answers · asked by ynot3737 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have a family make sure everyone knows how much you care about them Sometimes we take it for granted and fail to tell our family members we love them.Settle any misunderstandings or disputes you may have.Many people grieve in silence because they never got the chance to say I'm sorry.Things left undone are reminders to the living that they have to deal with from now on.If you have kids make sure they know how proud they make you even if they don't. Love is the one thing we have that you will always remember even in times of pain and hurt.
Yes unfortunately we have to work even in bad times.Use this time to show others that you're not a quiter.Be strong for others that are weak.Find your inner strenght and will power to carry on with your life.Take everyday and enjoy the simple things.Usually we forget the little things that make us smile and happy while we persue the bigger things.The little things is what makes us who we are. These little things are what keeps your memmory alive long after we are gone.
Prepare your self for the tough times ahead.We all need someone to guide us or give us strenght. If you are religious talk with your minester let him know your fears.He can help you find comfort in your gourney.Share your feelings with him and your family. Settle any issues that may concern money. If you have property change the name on the deed now so it won't be taken if theres not enough money to pay everything.Make a will and have it secured by someone you trust.Make sure it will stand up in court and can't be contested.
Now for the time you have left. Make life worth living and try some new things.Plant a tree for the memmory of your life.
2007-03-21 16:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would live each day and year to the fullest and love each person in my life so very much and live each day like it is my last. I would get things in order for my family and even save some money to help pay for my funeral expenses and even get life insurance if need be. Make out a will and buy a cemetary plot as well and you can even pick out and buy your own headstone and say what you want on it. You can actually plan things better then someone who dies and does not know it is coming. Hugs to you and make sure you are ready to meet God when you die:) I will be praying for you and I am here if you need to talk and here comes lots of hugs your way. Start saving money too. Also make sure to take lots of pics and have lots of pics taken of you as well so your family and loved ones will have lots of good and happy memories of you to hold on to and treasure long after you are gone. You may even want to have surgery done if at all possible to try and slow this process down if at all possible. There may be a specialist who can do this for you and maybe even try to move the annurism if at all possible. Also get a second opinion and things like that too and if i were you i would see a brain specialist and surgeon and see if anything can be done. Here comes lots of hugs your way:) Remember keep smiling and you chin up! Go on some fun trips to and maybe even a great vacation or two. Live life to the fullest.
2007-03-21 15:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that! I just spoke to a friend today and he just found out he could become very sick (due to his illness) at anytime he has some sort of a incurable infection and he is basically a very happy person. Remember this please, do not dwell on the inevitable but to live for today. I understand you have to live and plan for your death but don't let that get in the way of enjoying what time you do have left. Nobody is promised tomorrow and we all need to be thankful for what we do have and count our blessings. May I give you a word to the wise? Talk to a therapist and let them help you through this and maybe even a clergy. May you find peace and happiness!.
2007-03-21 16:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the song, live like you were dieing.. if I was told that, I would first breakdown, then I would worry (where you are now) then last I would have my feet in the ocean, scream as loud as I could from the top of the highest building I could find, I would do everything in my life I have not done yet.. and that means so much to me to do.. I have a book of things I want to do, they are my hopes and my dreams... and we are here one time, why should we worry about what we are going to leave behind other then love... you have made me cry, I am so sorry to hear this, but please do anything and everything you have ever wanted to do.. please... and if any of that has to do with Indiana, well luck me up I will take you to do something you have never done before.. lots of love and great typing you to..
2007-03-21 15:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'll tell you...my aunt was diagnosed with advanced, aggressive breast cancer about 6 years ago. At the time, she was told that most women with her type of cancer and at her stage wouldn't live beyond two years.
First, she did research on her disease, she took what treatment was available and started taking better care of herself.
At the same time, she also took care of her business and got her affairs in order. She arranged a funeral and pre-paid for it, she got a will settled and made arrangements for her husband and her kids. She talked to people about what she wanted and how she wanted things handled. I won't lie, it was very difficult for everyone involved but it needed to be done.
THEN. She just lived her life. She went to work, she took care of her kids, planned vacations, did volunteer work, had a lot of fun...all the things that she normally did. Now, 6 years later (four years longer than the doctors gave her), she's still living her life and has no sign of her cancer.
She swears that she's still here because she lived like she was "living" not like she was "dying". Besides, she figured that even if she was dying, she certainly didn't want to waste what time she had left worrying about it and being depressed over it.
2007-03-21 15:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by RMarcin 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear that, you shoud enjoy life, every moment. Do those things you wanted to do. Don't go through this on your own, tell your family and enjoy them. I would change jobs if your job is time consuming. Don't worry about anyone else, or saving money for your funeral, make a will, and a living will, use your savings, any insurance policy or retirment accounts for your funeral. I know people don't like to leave much expenses on their loved ones. Don't worry to much about leaving something behind for your off springs or partner just enjoy you and leave those investments for the funeral if it bothers you. Take care
2007-03-21 15:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say this that God Is A Healer and you can believe him for your healing and also there are good doctors out there that have a gift to heal through medicine. I want u to live life to the fullest and be happy and this doesn't have to be a death sentence. People live through aids, cancer and many others.
2007-03-21 15:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by sweet p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister was diagnosed with inoperable brain cancer at twenty nine. she couldn't quit her job as she would lose her insurance. she also had two small children to care for. in order for her to try and enjoy her remaining years she moved in with my family and we helped her to care for her children and let her save up money to put into special accounts for the children. she ended up going down to apart time employee to keep her insurance and spend as much time as possible with her friends and family. she even took a class about something new that she had been curious about. If you have someone similar that you can lean upon i would recommend it. Mostly i would say do not give up medical technology is making advances every day. you never know.. you are in my thoughts and prayers
2007-03-21 15:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God bless you!
My grandfather just found out he has lung cancer that is apparently pretty progressed. I don't know what you do in your situation, but I think I would spend All my time left enjoying life to the fullest. Don't worry, just live! That is what we should all be doing. Love hard. Make it the time of your life and tell everyone you love that you do.
2007-03-21 15:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by pooty36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would make sure im saved so i could go to heaven to be with Jesus and my mom and other loved ones and id enjoy my rest of the time i had make arrangements so my family wouldn't have to pay expenses . you know god can heal you if its not your time this makes me sad my mom died from cancer when i was 18 i miss her so much ill keep you in my prayers hope surgery can be done god can work threw it too im going before i cry
2007-03-21 15:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋