WHY cant my hubby give me an orgasm?????????

Question

We have been married for 2 years.Known eachother for 10 years.He is still obsessed with me.I am in very good shape.Althetic,and preety.He only last 3 minutes every time we do it.he says hes sorry for not lasting longer.and says its my fault! how is it my fault??.And why cant he give me an orgasm?..we have tried,and it never works!!!! agh.

Answer 1

Maybe he should masterbate before you guys have sex.Oh ,yeah,and tell him to stop being so selfish

Answer 2

It takes men 2 to 3 minutes to have an orgasm. It takes women 20 to 30 minutes or more. Of course you don't have an orgasm.

Fortunately, women can have multiple orgasms. Try masturbating first, or having him give your oral. When you feel you are about to climax, have him enter you. Or, you can have a full orgasm through masturbation or oral, then start again and at the last minute have him enter you. The second orgasm is easier in most women.

Good luck.

P.S. The fact that he blames you is bad. There is definitely something wrong with him.

Answer 3

You need to teach and have him do oral on you so you can orgasm or even try toys while he is in you like a couples toy that you can buy at a local adult bookstore or even online. If he gives you an orgasm by oral then he can enter you after you are done and satisfied then it wont matter how fast he finishes after that. this is what works for my husband and me and we are both satisfied alot:) It also might do you both good to see a sex therapist if need be as well.

Answer 4

As other have said there are more ways to please a women than penis in Virgina. You did not say how old you were but if he is a young man then let him "do his thing" and in about twenty to thirty minutes he will be ready to go again. So....for the next twenty to thirty minutes he spends that time pleasuring YOU....with his mouth fingers toys what ever it takes after twenty minutes of that if you have not reached orgasm yet you should be VERY close.....and his second time around will last longer. Another thing you could try is have him...or you could do it for him...masturbate about two hours before you are going to make love. This too will slow him down a little. This can be resolved honestly....and you will find that as he gets older he will be able to last longer...so the best is yet to come. Hang in there and good luck

Answer 5

You say he is still obsessed with you, if that is the case he will want to satisfy you. You need to take responsibility for your own orgasms. Have you shown him what makes you feel good? Talk him through it while his gives you oral. You can still get a hand on your goodies while he is in the saddle, do it and don't feel self conscious about it. He doesn't need foreplay but you need to take an active part in teaching him what you need. Get yours once or twice before you allow him his 3 min. ride, which by the way is about average.
Good luck.

Answer 6

First of all, it's neither of your fault and it's both of your fault!! You need to approach this situation a whole new way with a whole new attitude. Slowly! Learn how to build up and make it linger. Your husband is not the giver of your orgasm, my dear! It is something you must give to yourself by using all means neccessary. Your brain is the biggest sexual organ of all, second, your clitoris usually has to be stimulated as well. I have found that a woman can do this better than the man because your the one whose feeling it and know where to stimulate oneself. Both of you should try concentrating on just you at first for a little while, before he gets all hot and bothered, past the point of no return. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Things to consider.

He may have a medical problem that could be corrected by a visit to the dr., medication, etc.

How often do you have sex? The longer it is between times, the faster he is likely to go off.

Maybe he finds you so exciting and sexy, he really cant control himself well. If you are his fantasy or dream girl in the flesh, he may be so excited to get you, he is like a kid on his first date. By the way, if that is the case, you are a very lucky lady and the envy of many in some ways. Realize that.

Now, the orgasm thing may be a matter of duration. But it is also true that one will find it almost impossible to give a woman an orgasm or please her if she isnt willing or wanting you to do so. Not true in all cases of course, but a valid point. How receptive are you to allowing yourself to have an orgasm with him? Resentment, anger, frustration can affect a woman and her ability to have an orgasm.

He may be super sensitive.

Again, simply food for thought.

Answer 8

have him go down on you or do it more often , there are creams that will help him last longer as well or if in nh area i last 45 mins all time lol or seroiusly this would work have the guy go down on ya this will bring you close if not completely to it then have sex he should finish you just fine both of ya are happy
or as stated if in nh area lol lol lol

Answer 9

Firstly, as far as his problem; he needs to desensitize his member, wear boxers, leave it out when hes home, and also he needs to "practice" (wink wink) on himself. And "practicing" just once before you go can improve the duration of the "physical activity".
Second, try foreplay and felatio before getting right to it; a women sometimes needs to be mentally ready before the actually act.
Your problem is not uncommon, many women can't reach orgasm through intercorse alone, most can't reach orgasm w/ intercores at all. Clitoral stimulation is the most common/easiest method for women; try incorperating that into your "activities"

Answer 10

Try this.

Tell him to masterbate during the day!

Make him give you oral sex tell ur almost ready to orgasm, then you can start ******* , and then you should be done at the same time.

The reason he is going so fast is because he is thinking he is going to *** fast and he does, try to get him to keep his mind of it, and make him go down on you tell ur almost ready to *** then make pull him up towards you and tell him to hammer away... ahha

best of luck

Answer 11

have you tried showing him how you can give yourself an orgasm? have him work on you during the foreplay, can't help the not lasting long though.