Every time I get to this point (of Leaving) I never can.........
What is wrong with me?? I Hate this....... Financially I can support myself and my child. But Ive become so accustomed to this lifestyle that I can't bear going back to :
-apartment life
-being alone
-getting rid of my dogs (because of apartment life)
-feeling like a failure
Just when I get the strength and the anger up to leave -I wake up the next day in tears because I can't understnad what went wrong? why does he treat me this way? why does he manipulate and control the discussions? where's the respect? why don't I deserve it? Why does he make it always my fault? then later return with a good reason for his behavior and try to excuse it. He never seems to CARE about my feeling or what the outcome of a negative action towards me will affect me......WHY!!!????
2007-03-21 15:08:32 · 8 answers · asked by Rain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like you are being abused. You need to do this for your own health & sanity and also for your daughter's. It's always hard at first, but down the road you will sigh a big sigh of relief! If you don't leave, he will never change. If you do "separate" he may be willing to see his faults and want to change to make it work. I've been thru this myself. I had to leave and give up pets. After about 7 months, when I was getting on with my life, he wanted me back and made some big changes. It worked for a little while.
Here's a suggestion for the pets: go to www.petfinder.org and see if someone in your area has a place that will be a foster home for your animals until you get your next home.
Good luck and remember if you keep doing things the way you always have, you'll always have what you have right now or it will get worse. You have to be the one to start the change process.....
2007-03-21 16:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called abuse. He is verbally and emotionally abusing you. That's why you don't feel any respect from him to you. Guys like that have no respect or true care for their gal. Honest. No matter what, please, do yourself, and especially your child, a GIGANTIC favor, get out of there-ASAP! I't's not good for the child to be around this kind of environment-HONEST. You can, and you must do this. For you, and for your child. You will probably also need to get a restraining order on the guy after you move out. Some apts. allow pets, so you may have to pay a pet deposit, but look around, you might find a place that will accept pets. I truly wish you and your child the best. Take care.
2007-03-21 22:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what you truly want your end result to be. Do you really want things to work out or do you really want it to be over? Once you know the answer to that you need to make steps towards that result. Whether that means seeking out a lawyer to get divorce advice or if that means talking to him about seeing a counselor. At this point the decision is yours. Just don't make the mistake of staying together for your daughter. You are NOT doing her any favors by exposing her to behavior that you would consider unacceptable for her. If you want better for her then you need to SHOW her what that looks like.
2007-03-21 22:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by XOJordanXO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just need to cool off once in a while don't think about it when like this think of the pro and con. that doesn't punch a pillow.just calm down.one day tell him to go outside pack all his stuff then throw it out lock the doors .take a vacation with your child and enjoy your self . the cryin means you are stressed.so get a day and enjoy your self
2007-03-21 22:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Marcus H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out.
Find a house and a roomate to share the rent.
But apartment living is not living hell.
Get out.
Think of your child -- this is NOT HEALTHY for him or her.
If you need help gearing up, talk to someone -- even a professional.
2007-03-22 00:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, go home, look into your child's eyes, then ask yourself, does my child really deserve to see me cry. we all think it doesnt affect our children when it acctually does, I know my son hates to see me cry and he tells me, I hurts them too! Just think about it. Good Luck!
2007-03-21 22:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by chelsmat2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a jerk.drop him like a back of rock's.dump him like a pile of soment.X(grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.you know what to do know.brake up with him.im shier you get the point.good luck!!:)
2007-03-21 22:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by kk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is obviously a controling a##hole , you need to leave for you and your childs sake
2007-03-21 22:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by imahigh1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋