When I was younger I was an ugly duckling and very self concious, but in the past year or two I have matured, grown into my own skin, and recieve a lot more attention from guys and have a lot more friends. However, I still feel like that little ugly duckling inside. How can one get over the past and move on? Have you had a similar experience? Do you think that the way you felt in the past and experiences that you went through really affect how you are today?
2007-03-21 15:04:17 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i know the feeling well. i've also been seen as a "goody-two-shoes" for most of my life. honestly, i'm still trying to grow into my own skin, as well. one thing i know for sure, though, is that all of the rejection and pain i have endured has only made me infinitely stronger. it breaks my heart to see those close to me give up on something that they love because they failed a few times. because i am persistent and have never given up on my passions, i have found success, and hopefully i will soon find my confidence, as well.
2007-03-22 15:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by kmac989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am basically in the same situation. Every now and I again...I don't feel like myself. After moving out to the suburbs/country, and away from my hardcore gamer city friends, I became more outgoing, more attractive, and receive more attention from girls, but mostly I just feel like I betrayed them for becoming someone different that what they are.
But I guess I've just learned to move on. My experience is different from theirs, and I can't change it. Essentially we're all the same, and only slightly different. I now work out 3-4 days a week, eat healthier, and hardly play any video games anymore. I'd really like to reconnect with them...but they probably wouldn't like me anymore.
I was also never a very attractive guy....but now that I am, I just kinda roll with it. I of course have my ups and I have my downs, but I sorta feel blessed to be able to feel those ups and downs, instead of always feeling down. My life has been tough at times, and it has had it's good times.
But back to the question - don't feel like the "ugly duckling" inside. Let your inner as well as your outer beauty shine. Don't become conceited and stuck up, and you're a total catch. Be aware of yourself as well as you're surroundings, and be careful with the guys you meet. But most importantly, have fun and live your life - -- that's what we're on this planet for!
2007-03-21 22:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by Constantine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly how you feel. I was a geek and a "goody-two shoes" when I was younger. Now my social life has improved like yours did. Just remember to forget your "ugly duckling" past and focus on your new and improved future.
2007-03-21 22:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by courtney n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over it completly and that's good! It will keep you humble.
Don't look at the new attention as confirmation that you are better now. Confidence has to come from inside. You have to truly be happy with who you are, not because of what other people think.
2007-03-21 22:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry Darling 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Of course they do... yur body has changed and your having a hard time adjusting. Find an experienced female therapist who can assist you and mentor you as you mature. You won't need very many visits, as this is a normal transition for most girls.
2007-03-21 22:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a devastating experience and some people never completely completely rebuild their lives, sorry but experience is speaking here and this applies to boys as well as girls.
2007-03-21 22:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They may affect you, that is your past experiences, but they do not need control you.
2007-03-21 22:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋