I've been dating my girlfriend for about two years now. We're long distance by an hour and see each other once or twice a week.
For the past few weeks, she's seemed distant and not so interested in talking to me. She calls less and when we do talk, it's only for a few minutes at a time. She's also been spending ALOT of time with her best friend, they've been going out frequently and she has been sleeping at her best friend's place. Four nites in a row last week her phone was "dead" after she left the bar and spent the nite at her girlfriend's. She doesn't call me while she's hanging out there, and when she does call it's when she's getting ready to leave or when she has got back to her apartment. Since we're an hour apart, I can't prove that anything is going on and I've asked her if anything is bothering her or if she wants to talk, and she insists she's fine. Is she just having a rough time right now, or is she seeing someone on the side?
2007-03-21 14:55:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know if she's seeing someone else,but I think she is taking an emotional breather so to speak.It's not your job to prove anything is going on,so please don't push that issue,the best thing that you can do is be supportive of her spending time with her best friend,and be there for her when she comes back into your arms,if you love her you will give her the space and the time that she needs for whatever it is that she is going thru.Pushing the issue about her possibly seeing someone else could just backfire on you,driving her into the arms of another(I don't think that is what you are hoping to accomplish)Be good to yourself,try not to worry about what's going on and keep yourself busy In time you will have your answer,but let it evolve without pushing the issue
2007-03-21 15:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by FYIIM1KO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why I do not have a girlfriend right now. I know you want a lift me up, but two can play this game. If she looks good then it should boost your confidence. If she isnt all that, then you shouldnt be this needy with her. Either way girls want mystery, dont call for a few days and go out yourself, give her a little mystery, dont be an a hole and say you were out with some girl or something just say you went out with some friends. LIl mystery doesnt hurt. Take this with a grain of salt because I havent had a girlfriend in 2 years but I have had girls lately.
2007-03-21 15:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Reganomics 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her once you keep on wondering if she was cheating on you or why she's becomming more distant from you. You need to tell her how you're feeling about her now and why its bothering you. If you dont tell her, you're just gonna keep on thinking about all the negative things she might be doing to you, like cheating. Assuming what she's doing is bad. So, just ask her why she hasnt been calling you as much as before. I think the reason why she isnt calling you as much is because she's probably just busy and she hasnt spend much time with her friends, so she's been with her friends lately, rather than talking to you. Anyway, my point is communication is important in relationships to be good.
2007-03-21 15:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would definetly talk to her and tell her." hey look wahts up"....are we being too distant in our relationship together. expect the worse because her actions are pretty bad. My boyfriend use to spend alot of time with his " friend" but sometimes connection with various, trustworthy people is all somebody may need...she may be going through something....communication is the key. God bless.!
2007-03-21 15:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro to begin with if your only an hour away, I'de damn sure be making the trip and checking for myself, and Yes it does sound kinda weird that all of a sudden shes loosing intrest in you like that i'de have to say shes getting it on the side
2007-03-21 15:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As sad as it is - I would say for her its 'out of sight out of mind' when it comes to you...its sounds like she is filling the void with other people because you are so far away and she is enjoying it. It may not be that she is seeing someone else though...
2007-03-21 15:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by babyblues_752001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you hit it right on the head!!! But to be sure, I would go check out things yourself, if your up to it. You can call on your cell to find out where she is while you are traveling there. Do be prepared tho!! Sorry!!
2007-03-21 15:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you will know the true answer is to just ask. Stop speculating and come right out and ask her response will tell all.
2007-03-21 15:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by HoneyBrisk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like time for a surprize vist!
2007-03-21 14:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by Robyn T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋