I was raped by my so called "friend". Anyway I am 8 weeks pregnant and want an abortion my mom is all for it but my dad and aunt have teamed up to try and pressure her into keeping me from getting it. Can I still get an abortion? How do I deal with them?
2007-03-21 14:50:44 · 32 answers · asked by lol 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can still get the abortion. Trouble is should you get the abortion. Just remember this. Women who have had abortions experience more cancers than women who have had the baby.
The infant that is growing inside of you became a person the moment his sperm combined with your egg. This person did not ask to be created. Have the child honey. Thier are so many couples out there that want children and can not have them that adoption of the infant would be a wonderful thing.
2007-03-21 14:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 10⤊ 1⤋
First of all, ignore everyone who is putting you down for wanting an abortion. You were raped, and that in itself is a very scary thing. The first thing you should do is get counsoling, you must realize the rape was not your fault. It was the person who did this to you, it is his fault.
Now if you want to have an abortion, talk to your mother, see if she will be willing to research options with you. Also remember you are not a bad person for wanting this to be over. There are a lot of people out there that judge and do not understand because they have not been in your position.
I am guessing you are underage, and being a teen Mom can ruin a lot of oppurtunities for you. I would say get an education, travel, and enjoy your life.
We dont know what state you are in, so the law vary by state.
So go to prochoice.org to research your option. Also there is a pre-abortion support group in the yahoo groups that may give you some emotional support you need right now. It is confidential and may make you feel better.
There is also a group called I maybe pregnant ( IMBP) that is a neutral group dedicated to supporting women and all of the options involved in making this choice. There are also a few women on that board that are interesting in adopting if that is a choice you wish to make.
I hope this helps, and remember ignore the immature posts below that are attacking you and your rights. Do what is best for you.
2007-03-24 00:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by sookiesmypup 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I have to tell you, when I was 18 I had an abortion. I am 26 now, have 2 beautiful children and one on the way. And to this day I regret my decision. I have lived with the guilt and regret everyday of my life for the past 7 years. If I could do it all over, I would NEVER have an abortion. But, I will cut you a little slack because you were raped. Have you considered adoption? Or the fact that this is still your child? He/she still is your blood child no matter who its father is. But in the end, the decision is yours. Follow your heart and don't let it be influenced by others who can not possibly understand the emotional turmoil you are going through. But if you decide to go through with the abortion, do it soon. You are already 8 weeks along. Good luck and please don't listen to anyone on here that calls you a bad person. I've been there, and I understand how you feel.
2007-03-21 16:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by amf 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Normally, I am against abortion. However, I have never been in your shoes, therefore I pass no judgement on you. It is your body! You had a terrible thing happen to you!! If you honestly think you can't handle carrying a baby to term, then tell your dad that you are going to have the abortion and to quit pressuring you! If that does not help, have your mom take you to have it done (without telling your dad).
You still have a few weeks before you HAVE to make the decision. So think it thru, you will think about this baby the rest of your life. There are alot of good people out there that could give the baby a loving home.
2007-03-21 15:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie K 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
how old are you if you dont mind me asking?
ive always been against abortion but never really been in the situation where i wanted it nor needed it. I cant tell you what to do or how to deal with anything because im not in your situation. I might think about having the kid then giving it up for adoption but how do you go 9 months, give birth to a baby and then seperate from it. But same goes for knowing something living is inside of you and you just going in the doctor and having a 15-20 min. operation and killing it? can you really just go on then in life living like it never happened? cause if you think you can then i would go find someone who has had an abortion and then ask them how its effected their life... Its a real hard situation your in and im sorry.. but its not just you now you have to think for.... regardless if you were raped its still a piece of you!!!
think long and hard about this! but planned parenthood im sure could help you out!
god bless and good luck!
2007-03-21 14:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sice you were raped, that must have been a terrible experience...I understand that you would not want a constant reminder of that, also if you keep the kid, many painful memories may return when it is curious about the child. I do not believe in abortion, but Adoption is always an option, try to find a nice loving couple and ask if they want your child. Also, speak to your Aunt and Father about why you do not want to keep the child.
2007-03-22 09:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have concerns about someone with your problem, supposedly having just been raped joining with the screen name 2 sexy 4 u... seems odd to me and no 13 y/o LITTLE girl is sexy. But assuming that you have been raped(not entirely convinced):
I understand that you were raped and that is traumatic, but why punish yourself more. Abortion hurts women and babies. You will forever regret ending YOUR baby's life. Abortion is not the answer. Do you really think abortion will help you deal with the trauma of having been raped? You do know that you will still have been raped, it will still be there and now it will be compounded by the guilt of having taken the life of your baby. You deserve more than that. Your BABY deserves a life. Your baby didn't do anything wrong. Don't punish him or her for something they had nothing to do with. Please listen to your Dad and Aunt, they love you and they don't want to see you hurt any further. You are blessed that you have their loving support.
Someone who has had an abortion probably isn't the best person to accept advise from. They have every reason to justify their actions, so they dont have to admit what they did was very wrong.
2007-03-21 15:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Linnygirl 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I can understand that your very sad about the situation,but truthfully, your dad and aunt are right!...Once you feel that baby move inside you, you will change your mind, and love the baby...it wasn't the baby's fault that guy was a jerk..which I hope he's going to jail for,right?....But anyways,the only regret you will have is, if you get the abortion...It sounds like Your family will help you, and support you if you have it, right?...or just give it up for adoption...Go on some of these nasty abortion sites and take a good look at what you would be doing to that innocent baby!!!...PLEASE!!
2007-03-21 15:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by jan 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well u can always give the baby up for adoption there is families out there who can give the baby a good home
I understand u not wanting to keep the baby it would be hard to raise a baby who reminds u of ur rape but murder of a baby isnt the answer
As far as your nature is concerned, I see no difference between the early person that you were at conception and the late person which you are now. You were, and are, a human being."
"It's not good for women to go through the procedure [abortion] and have something living sucked out of their bodies. It belittles women. Even though some women say, 'Oh, I don't mind to have one,' every time a woman has an abortion, it just crushes her self-esteem smaller and smaller and smaller."-Dolores O'Riordan
2007-03-21 17:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't make a rash decision. I know it must be highly traumatic to be raped and pregnant but that doesn't automatically = abortion.
If you are willing ,read Francine Rivers book The Atonement Child before you make a decision (it is about a girl like you and how things work out for her.)
Know that your Father and your Aunt love you just as much as your Mom and only want the best for you. Get some counseling as a family and for you before making your decision.
2007-03-21 15:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by ArmyWifey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋