I'm involved in a interracial realtionship with a women whose family is from Punjab, India. Though since I have been with her I have noticed a lot of middle eastern and Indian men who give us dirty stares whenever we go out in public and try whenever they can to hit on her and flirt with her and ask her out even though they know we are in a relationship together plus I have gotten dirty stares from other people such as white women, spanish men, and more than anybody else black men. Most of my friends who are black or spanish date white women and no one seems to care or ever give them a hard time but as soon as my half white/american indian a** gets involved with a beautiful women of another race every other race of man seems to get jealous.
2007-03-21 14:48:34 · 9 answers · asked by DanielIrish 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I am a native American girl in a relationship with an asian girl.
And I know what you mean, previously I was with a white guy and I got discriminated against almost always. I'm used to it, almost.
2007-03-21 14:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Interesting...I am married to a man from the Calcutta Area. I'm a white American and he frequently goes back to India and is there now. I miss him but the truth is that our religious differences are really a strain. He is a wonderful person but has the typical Hindu religion that he is very loyal to. (He is a monk.) He meditates and does yoga three times a day, takes two baths every day, doesn't eat mushrooms, garlic or onions and rarely has sex.
I'm frusterated as he fasts all the time (four times a month) and he is growing thinner and thinner. His skin is excessively dry and feet are calloused and bleed. (All the symptoms of an anorexic.) I care about him and think his religion is literally killing him. (He is sick and throwing up a lot and he is to the point he can hardly eat any protein without throwing up.)
When we got married, he thought I would be an easy convert and called me "sister/Didi". But after seeing what the religion does to him, I'm really not interested at all in being saddled with all those rules. (Do you know that he thinks it is healthy medicine to drink URINE????? That is absolutely NUTS!!!!)
I really can't take this and I'm filing for divorce as his real purpose of marrying me was to help to spread his religion to America and that just doesn't cut it!
I'm so sad because I care a great deal for him as a person. It is really hard to let go but I must.
I miss his presence in the house and the nice smell of East Indian cooking and the gardening he did. Everything reminds me of when he was here last and I am sad.
The neighbors who know him, ask of him all the time and we never had any of the problems you mentioned...everyone was happy for me as he was a very nice person to be around and people knew it. We had our cultural differences...(Indian men can be very authoritarian!) and I was appalled by his religion but I really cared a lot for him. Friends and neighbors could see the love and accepted him as they accept me.
Its a shame the religion must come between us so drastically...I don't want to support this religion in the U.S....very culty like Hare Krshna's...it made me feel ill the superstition and blind faith in a very stupid guy for a leader. Sick.
I wish you'd allow e-mails...I'd write you in private...oh well.
How long have you been married? Are you happy? Are you
living in the U.S.? Where? You must be in a pretty racist/conservative/christian area. I'd suggest moving if you can.
2007-03-21 15:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Welcome to the world of interracial dating.
I am married to a black man who is from Africa and I am a white American. We get looks all the time, some with smiles, some with frowns. It's just a part of life and closed minded people. Hold your head high, know that you both deserve to be happy no matter what others may think. And just ignore those bigot closed minded people.
2007-03-22 14:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by goddessatanea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer the original question: I am not in an interracial relationship... but wish to offer some humble advice. The world is full of petty, small-minded people. We're all so imperfect and we all so love to judge. Remember that, and ignore the haters. If your love is true, it will conquer all. I hope your relationship stays healthy and continues to blossom into something beautiful. If her family accepts you that's all you have to worry about. Don't care about what everyone else thinks.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 14:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by gabound75 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I'm in an interracial relationship. I found that interracialrelationships.ca is a good site. You'll find a blog and first hand experience about an interracial couple as well as general things in interracial relationships.
2007-03-21 16:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by Coco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is white/asian. We get the weird stares and dirty looks too. From some older white people we normally get dirty looks, from some blacks and hispanics we normally get the what the hell are you thinking look. It sucks that people can't look and think aww how sweet or view us as any other couple, but it's just one of those things you have to deal with.
2007-03-21 14:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Serenity 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend is white, I'm Ghanaian (west African country).He's my first boyfriend, first sexual partner etc. We have gotten some looks but I don't really care. Besides, who cares what anyone has to say? Other people's simple minded prejudices should in no way matter to me. I love him, he loves me, that's all that matters.
2007-03-22 09:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by Old Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. My three kids are all of mixed race. Do your own thing and who cares what other people think. You make each other happy and that is all that matters.
2007-03-21 14:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by deb 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I almost always am...
2007-03-21 14:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Luz Sin Gravedad♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋