I will be married three years this year, My husband has always had a problem with low/no libido, he wont go and see a Dr. and says I just have a high libido, I have not ran into this with any other man, help!
2007-03-21 14:34:54 · 19 answers · asked by Rosiebud 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband loves his XBOX, he gets more excited waiting for his friends to come on line and play. He is not taking any medication either. Sex might not be everything, but its something that is very important to me and that should make him care, obviously he doesnt care about anyone but himself.
2007-03-21 14:48:36 · update #1
Also he will turn 32 in a few months, this is killing me !!!!!!
2007-03-21 14:49:41 · update #2
I totaly understand what you are going through. I've been married for 5 months and have only had sex ONCE!. Can you believe it?..even that one time, it was nothing great - to be really honest it was not good at all. It was sooo not passionate!. Anyway I'm sick and tired of talking to my husband about it. I have totaly given up. It really frustrating and sad. But I've got no choice. I love him and I know that he loves me deeply. what can I do. I just hope and pray every day that he will come home after work and want me. But it never happens.
Im sorry but I really dont know what to say or how to help you out. But I wish you all the best.
2007-03-25 04:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by sapphire_wisdom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i prefer to comprehend the answer to this too, because of the fact i think of my fiance is to blame of a similar. we've intercourse approximately as quickly as a week now. I used to would desire to commence up each little thing, even though it have been given to the factor the place it felt like i had to beg him for intercourse, which i assumed became pathetic, so I lost interest too. Now i'm fortunate if i'm getting a kiss or cuddling on the sofa an afternoon. we've been at the same time almost 3 years & that is been like this for some million-2 years. I only stopped being concerned & i'm content textile now on account that i'm no longer constantly paranoid or annoying, yet i'm no longer chuffed. I omit the enthusiasm & spontanuity we used to have, the flirting ect. It exceptionally much sounds like we are an old content textile married couple, no longer quickly to be newlyweds. Will the spark ever come again? Why did it leave interior the 1st place?
2016-10-01 07:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His low libido could be the cause of a lot of reasons. From low testosterone to depression. More often than not i believe it is due to no challenge and lack of excitement. Do you approach him with the invite? How do you approach him? Making a huge deal about it to him will make matters only worse. Try coming up with ways to get him in the mood. Try things he has never seen or would never think you would do. Its exciting to see new things. But be low-key about his possible condition. And keep in mind it may be as simple as it has become boring or the same ol same ol.
2007-03-21 14:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by PWisme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Folic acid, my dear, it helped my hubby, and it does not say anything about helping a guys sex drive, but if you can get him to take it as a vitamin and not mention to him that it might help his sex drive, well all the more for you. It may cut him up to. My hubby loves XBOX to. You could try taking his games away if he doesn't have a bad temper, mine does, and hope he doesn't go and buy more games. You could leave the house when he is playing the games and treat yourself to some shopping or take yourself out to dinner and let him know this is why you are treating yourself, because he is not spending time with you, maybe he will get the hint, maybe you could join in, another tactic, but I could not stand the swearing and blood on the Halo game, so I never joined in the game. I did have some pornos myself, but then I was cheating on my hubby with them, so I had to get rid of them eventually.
2007-03-21 15:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has had this problem where her husband had low sex drive!! :-)
Well, there was a time when our relationship was very strained, and our lovemaking was very infrequent at that time. It was not really related to either of our sex drive.
What I am trying to say here is that there are many reasons why this can happen. He may be preoccupied with some problem at work. How has your relationship been? How are your finances? Do you have any difference in opinion regarding finances? Anything else?
You need to think about all these things and see how some of these may be affecting your sex life.
2007-03-21 14:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by krsh28 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I realize that sex isn't everything, and that we all experience changes in our sex drives, men and women alike, but when it's happening to you, it's hard to take. I understand completely what you're going through, and all I can say is that if you really love him, give it time, and have patience-I know that's hard though! Do you guys have a good relationship otherwise? If so, don't let this ruin it. Try talking gently about it. See if that helps. You also could try and spice things up too. Work it out if you think it's worth it. Maybe if he realizes that it's a big enough deal to you and that it makes you this unhappy, he'll try to work it out. Time and patience girl....try not to take it personally either. It's not you...
2007-03-21 14:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Crazygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the perfect idea.
When I was dating my now husband. He bought a Topco sex swing for Valentines day last year. That is my suggestion, If you did, it would be day he would never forget. I experienced my first big - O, it was amazing, so I just had to marry him.
From this woman's point of view the swing we got made my butt sore. It was like sitting on a swing at the playground. It made my legs go a little numb. I guess from a man's point of view. well lets say the point of view is what counts to him :)
I have been asking about the RHW swing I seen on ebay. The RockHer World Swing looks like it is built more from the woman's point of view. Looks like this is the one we are going to get next. It just looks so comfy. I found it by doing a search for "sex swing" on ebay.
Dose any one have the RHW Swing
2007-03-21 14:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a man who has little sex drive, and sometimes I think about cheating cause sex is very important to me also. I never had that problem with any of my ex's I don't know what is wrong with him. I've been with him for 2 years, and we hardly ever have sex. I cant take it anymore, I'm thinking of leaving
2007-03-21 14:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear, he does have to see a Dr, is he on any meds, the ones for depression kill your sex drive.
And no, my hubby does not have that problem, I think he is quite normal, very considerate, too.
Thanks for the additional info...Your hubby does not have a low sex drive, he is just very much into himself, is immature and is not husband "material". File for divorce, and get on with your life, there is a man out there that will treat you they way you deserve to be. He sounds like he thinks that he is thirteen years old!!! And, to those who think that porn is the answer, the dude is not into her, another distraction will not help.
2007-03-21 14:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is not surfing porn and still fairly young, he might have the need for some simple medication to jack things up. He might be lazy and unwilling to put in the effort when he can just tug one off in the bathroom.
Three years of marriage, you need to start communicating.
2007-03-21 14:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋