I was raped by a so called "friend". Now I'm 8 weeks pregnant and want an abortion. My aunt won't leave my mother and father alone trying to convince them not to let me. I've only been 13 for 2 WEEKS!! How the **** am I supposed to raise a baby? How do I stop this problem? Why are pro lifers so stupid? NO PRO LIFERS WHO ARE AGAINST ABORTION FROM A RAPE PLEASE!!!
2007-03-21 14:33:34 · 4 answers · asked by lol 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
People on both sides of the issue of abortion have a tendency to make up stories or exaggerate them in order to prove their point. I will assume that your rape was not reported, or was reported long after you conceived. Had you gone to report it, most likely you would have had a work-up done at a hospital or clinic where any chance of getting pregnant would have been negated. Obviously, you did not do this.
After reading all the answers to this and your other question, try to take in the less abrasive comments on both sides. I personally do not believe in abortion, but I also believe it is not my place to tell you what to do.
Try to discuss things with your parents. Try to understand why your father wants you to do things his way (your aunt's way) and try to explain to him your views on the subject. With your mother in your court, you should be able to have this discussion without too much turmoil if you all agree to keep things civil beforehand AND you keep your aunt out of the discussion. This will effectively remove her influence on your father for the duration of the conversation.
Don't listen to the people that say you'll never get over it. Some people do, some people don't. Don't listen to the people that say it's your body and "f" anyone that doesn't like it. Anything that begins with cursing is obviously not sound advice.
Take the time to speak to your family, the people that matter to you the most, and straighten things out. You will always be better off if you take a mature approach (even if you aren't that mature) to things that life throws at you.
One side note: If you haven't reported this rape, you should consider a few things. Speak to a lawyer before bringing this forward.If the father of the child is accused of rape, but is found not guilty, he has rights to that child. You will end up being tied together for the rest of your life to someone who you consider to have raped you. The other thing is that he may resent being accused and could become even more violent. Protect yourself and, if you decide to keep it, your unborn child.
2007-03-21 19:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Fin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it is stupid for people to wish a child to not be murdered, then all I can say is that your thinking is skewed. But then, we already knew that by your username. There is such a thing as adoption.
8 Weeks: At this point, all major structures, including hands, feet, head, brain, and other organs are present, but they continue to grow, develop, and become more functional. A fetus is typically about 30 mm (1.2 inches) in length, and the heart is beating. The fetus bends the head, and also makes general movements and startles that involve the whole body. Brain stem activity has been detected as early as 54 days after conception. Some fingerprint formation can be seen from the beginning of the fetal stage.
That is a LIFE!! Not a thing.
2007-03-23 03:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lost in Erehwon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little girl, prolife people are not stupid. Prolife people find abortion morally wrong because it is wrong.
You are a child and this decision should be left up to your parents. Unfortunately, it would seem that your mother wants to put you through more pain and anguish. Your Aunt has the right idea. She is trying to protect you.
Again, I have to question if your story is even real. I can't see a little girl getting on here with the name 2 sexy 4 u after *supposedly* being raped. If you are a 13 y/o girl you need to change that screen name...you're a baby....you are not sexy.
2007-03-21 19:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Linnygirl 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I am for pro life. I believe abortion is wrong. HOWEVER, I have never been raped or been pregnant at 13. I think you need to go to planned parenthood and let them advise you on your options. Also, there may be a rape crisis center near you that will provide some counseling.
Your aunt needs to butt out! It is nice that she cares about you, but she needs to support you, not pressure you.
BTW, I am so sorry that you had to go thru such an awful ordeal...
2007-03-21 15:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie K 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋