Ok first me and my freind got in a fight. Then everyone says i would look prettier if i put masscara on the if i do this this this. Which makes me feel like i am ugly and fat. I have bad grades. I have had them for ever. I have short term memory so its harder for me. I forget everything! I have really bad grades and i am used to it so thats really bad.Then i feel like none of the other guys at school like me so i feel ugly. Since i have bad grades, lots of fights, i feel ugly, i don't feel smart, nor confident. I feel so lost.I have so much emotional abuse to me. It just won't go away please help me!!!!!!! Also i just feel like nobody cares about me! Please help me!
2007-03-21 14:32:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ok calm down, fights don't last forever. My brother in law has short term memory too, do what he does, write stuff down on a little pad, you don't need to tell anyone what it is for at school, but don't write down personal stuff just incase it get's into the wrong persons hands. As for the guys at school liking you? You really don't need a boyfriend anytime soon. All they do is stress you out (I know from experience) Sounds like what you need is a little help at school (everyone needs help at some point in their life) and a self esteem boost. A little something I learned in high school when someone is trying to make you mad (pick a fight) what you do is agree with them.. example of what happened to me in high school
I was just walking down the hall and all of a sudden this girl says "you know your ugly" i said "I know." She said "you know your fat" i said "i know" she said "you know your stupid" I said "I know" all this time i had a big smile on my face. she ran out of things to say and never bothered me again, actually was nice to me after that. She didn't get to me so she didn't see the point in trying to anymore. Just agree, in your mind you are screaming some nasty names but keep them in your mind and paste a big smile on your face. i hope this works for you like it did for me. i have been where you are and it really does get better, your not young and in school your whole life and a lot does change in the years. And just because you FEEL ugly and fat doesn't mean you are. Maybe try the make up thing a bit not because of what people think but to make yourself feel better. It might work. And most important... talk about your feelings to family or friends or a consellor it really helps. Please cheer up don't put yourself through this! You don't need to! Take it from someone who grew up with a monster in the house. I am a adult now with two great kids and a husband, the Monster is gone from my life now. this goes to show that GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT! It gets better i can't say that enough!
2007-03-21 15:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is something simple to remember, no one gets anything without work. If you want to look better and make the most of what you have, you have to spend some time on it. Yes to light make up, that's why people wear it, not to look like someone else, just to bring out their best points and minimize their not-so-good ones. Same thing with clothes, if you, for example, have a big butt some styles, no matter how cool won't look good on you so you have to find a great look that makes you look good. Same thing with colors or hairstyles. Looking as good as you can is the first step toward more confidence, you know, most people are much more concerned about how they look to others then about how you look to them. So stop worrying so much. Even overweight people can take good care of their clothes and grooming. Think of Queen Latifah and Cameron Manheim. And all the models in the plus size magazines. If you learn to care about yourself, it won't matter so much what others think about you.
2007-03-21 14:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.....well....13ish is a tough age. Lots of social pressure, lots of identity crisis, lots of changes physically and emotionally. Believe me, anyone who says they'd do it all over again is SOOO full of it!
First off...no one is going to fix you....there is nothing wrong with you...people love and care about you weather you can see it now or not. Changing your make-up, getting in shape or losing weight, trying to fit in somewhere....none of that will help you if you don't like who you are. It doesn't matter what other people think of you, it matters what you think of you. I don't mean you have to become something you'll like, I mean you have to like who you are...even if you aren't sure what that is yet. When you can find yourself and find the beauty within you and learn to love yourself, everything else is cake. I know your saying yeah right, if I could do that I wouldn't be asking for help! and you'd be right, but no little pep talk on Answers is going to help a whole lot. But maybe it can get you in the right direction The suggestions to talk to a school councelor, or your parents, even your doctor, priest, something....someone thats not a confused kid like anyone else around your age is a really good suggestion. Surprisingly enough, many of the adults you may not think understand you, know much more than you give them credit (they have ALL been right where you are at some point in their lives, and they made it through it)...trust one of them to help out and talk to them. Waste no time... talk to someone and learn to be happy and live your life.
Good luck & take care
2007-03-21 14:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Cronides 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are. Try talking to your parents about what is going on or a school counselor. If you receive no help there, try a mental health professional.
With your grades, it may help to repeat a year in school. People handle things at a different rate and you may need some time to catch up. Good luck.
2007-03-21 14:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by expatmt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first thing... you have really bad grades! what should you do about it?... study and stop wasting time doing silly things. Also, of course there's the "short term memory" and the "long term memory" as well. Do as i do! use your short term memory for the people criticism, the silly things and non important things. Use your long term memory for your studies and the important things you need to remember; and stop listening to your friends beauty tips.... unless they are "professional image advisors". Try different things, new things, if you look good keep it, if not don't use it anymore. Stop wasting your time and energy trying to please everyone, just be yourself and self confident,... to gain confidence you need to be smart, to be smart you need to study.
2007-03-21 15:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Geo. F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first stop listening to other people bc they're only going to bring you down. look in the mirror ask yourself what you really want and work hard for it.
be positive and positive things will come to you.
2007-03-21 14:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Owned.
2007-03-21 14:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are you? if you are 12-17 then don't worry. your problem is called adolescence. you will outgrow all those things you are thinking about right now. just be happy everyday!
good luck.
2007-03-21 15:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink coffee. It cures depression.
2007-03-21 14:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dye your hair blonde
2007-03-21 14:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋