I was wondering... which has the potentail for making someone stray more... A) You see the person you are with everyday, either live together or are married or B) Only get to see eachother on the weekends, due to opposie schedules, and either live together or are married. I know that every relationship is different but in your opinion, if you saw eachother everyday would there be more potential to grow sick of the person and have it ruin the relationship or not see eachother as much and grow apart? Would being able to see oneanother on the weekends, for the most part, only be benificial seeing as how there would be more to talk about and the chances of getting tired of oneanother would be slimmer? I know those are definate extremes, but which do you think would be the harder on a relationship, A or B and why?
2007-03-21 14:21:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is HYPOTHETICAL!
2007-03-21 14:24:55 · update #1
For most people I would say that if they only saw each other on weekends....but I know I wouldn't ever cheat on my husband. We've gone times where we saw each other almost all day every day and we've gone times where we've been apart for days, weeks, even months because of his training and deployments and I never once thought about cheating and I know him well enough to know he didn't consider it either. If the person is right for you and you are committed then cheating won't be an issue for you.
Edit: I had to laugh at how some people would go wander after a week apart! Sure it sucks but when you love someone...I mean really truly love them...you can wait forever for them. Trust me on this...I know! I'm actually to the point where when mine is only gone for 3 weeks (with no phone, email, etc etc) I think that's not so bad! I actually think our relationship has gotten better because when we are together we don't fight over petty stuff that normally would muck up the works.
2007-03-21 15:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B is definitely the harder relationship. If you only see each other on weekends, you put all your time into that other person, and may forget to make time for friends and family. And being that you haven't seen each other all week, if there's something in the relationship that's bothering you, you may waste your whole weekend in an arguement. For example, if you live with the person and they don't clean up after themselves, you will be on their back all weekend to do their fair share. In regards to option A, you will get sick of the person if you see them all the time and don't make time for yourself to go out for a coffee with some friends, or to have your own quiet time. Just remember, it's all about BALANCE.
2007-03-21 21:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by schizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love for each other or the lack of it is what makes the difference. If you are not in love, then being away for long can create opportunities to stray. In the same way, seeing a spouse everyday when you don't love him/her can also make you want to look elsewhere.
Are you worried about your relationship?
2007-03-21 21:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by krsh28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call. My fiance and I have opposite schedules, but since mine is the most "normal", I am sure I am going to take on most of the responsibilities with children, etc. You have to find a balance either way...I think that is the key. Both can work, but both are hard. There has to be effort put in on both sides. There is never a good reason to cheat...that just shows weakness and disrespect.
2007-03-21 21:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by BellyRubz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you had a dog and you only fed it on the weekends, how long would it last?
Marriage has a life of it's own and it needs nurturing and tending on a daily basis.
"Grow sick of the other person"? that's my wife, the woman who I would gladly lay down my life for, the woman I committed my life to, the woman who will care for me when I am old and sick, the woman whose life gives me life. In the end, there is NOTHING I wouldn't give to spend one more day, one more hour with her. Any time spent away from my wife is a burden to me.
2007-03-21 21:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the person shows you disrespect, doesn't show love, doesn't meet your emotional needs, then you are more likely to stray.
Personally I would prefer to see my spouse only on the weekends. You get tired of seeing the same person every day
2007-03-21 21:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, a person can always find a way to justify what they want to do, such as cheat. If you see your mate everyday, you will use one set of reasons to cheat. If you only see them on weekends, you will use another set of reasons. Like I said, all that changes is the excuses people use to do as they wish.
2007-03-21 22:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B would be harder because if I was in love I would want to see him every night and sleep next to him. It would always be a very long week to see the person I loved. Take care Heather
2007-03-21 21:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me the answer would be B
The reason is i know that they say absence makes the heart grow fonder------but-----i feel absence makes the heart go wander!
2007-03-21 21:26:39 · answer #9 · answered by roxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
B
If you are sick of the person when you are close, they are not for you, or you are judgemental.
2007-03-21 21:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋