he is married an got anouther kid on the way but i still love him should i just get over him or try to get him back he says he misses me an is not happy with his marrige what should i do helppppppppp
2007-03-21 14:17:03 · 12 answers · asked by kellie h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you folks get into this stuff? How old do you have to be to get it? Lady, you stated that you are married, with the second kid on the way. Now doesnt at least a bit of common sense sneak in on occassion and give you a clue?
You got married by your own choice, did you not? You had sex with your husband and I assume by choice, right? You have gotten pregnant by him twice, right?
You know, it seems to me that your marriage vows pretty much spelled out what you should do. If that didnt, having your husbands kids should have filled in the blanks for you. Plus the ex boyfreind is married with a couple of kids, or the second on the way. So he made these choices as you did.
Grow up, unless you want to be just another baby maker who turns out kids only to raise them and teach them to be immoral, silly and irresponsible. Lord knows, the last thing we need is another person with no or few morals raising more kids and teaching them to be the same.
Lastly, let me enlighten you. Feelings can be wrong and fantasy isnt real life. You can believe or feel you are a bumble bee, but you still wont be enabled to fly, will you?
2007-03-21 15:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to make sacrifices. I cannot believe you are not thinking of what is important to your children and worrying about your love life with someone who is not your husband. Just let go and move on, don't hurt everyone else involved because you are being selfish. At some time or another, we all wish we could have what we do not have but you are risking the future of your children. Take some time to think about what is happening and think about your husband and his feelings too. Just keep in mind that this decision is going to affect a lot of lives and there is still no promises.
2007-03-21 15:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it didn't work the first time, what makes you think that is going to work this time when the situation seems to be much more complicated???
My point is ,there's is no guarantee here that he will be there for you the way your husband is there for you and will be there for your baby. Screwing that up shouldn't be an option, unless you are sure of it. Now, you shouldn't be thinking only about you but about your baby and the family that you are starting soon... Doesn't that sound much more promising and realistic??
Think about your future and your dreams and leave the past behind because living in it won't take you any further in life.
2007-03-21 14:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by myliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be.... you need to move on. He is married and you are married.... there are children in the picture. Dont try to complicate things and hurt your spouse. Respect each others boundaries... if it was meant for you to be together then you would be. Obviously things didnt work out for a reason. The hardest part is letting go of the thought that you may have a chance.... it is highly unlikely.
2007-03-21 14:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought of this before bringing more lives into the world. He isn't stable and neitherare you. You need to think of your children now.
2007-03-21 14:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by dana j 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still meeting and talking to him? Does your husband know that you talk to him? Does he know what he tells you and what you feel?
Are you and your ex still having a physical relationship?
2007-03-21 14:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by krsh28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why the hell did you even get married if you knew that you could not give your husband your whole heart because you are hung up on someone else? does your husband even deserve this?
2007-03-21 14:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hes not happy -ur not happy but u both bringing babie's into this world with other people!!!sorry but grow up!at least use effective birth control till u decide ur happy with someone .
2007-03-21 14:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by roxy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is only one thing to do, pray and ask God to change your heart to love your husband more deeply, if you seek God He will answer you and help you lead your life.....Jesus loves you
2007-03-21 14:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are children involved and you owe it to them to make your marriages work.
Stop any communication & if necessary go to marriage counseling.
2007-03-21 14:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋