Married women or men!?

Question

Has any women had their husband move out to spend some time away from them because "life" is getting too tough and had it work out in the end. Or has any man done this? I know that for a lot of men, the answer when things get rough is to run. Any insite from either side?

Answer 1

YES! But I am divorced. My ex told me that "He don't know who he is" and needed to "find himself!. WHAT A CROCK OF BULL! He was only 25 years old at that time. It was just an excuse to see other women...I found that out later. Needless to say, I am happily divorced and have been for 12 years.

Answer 2

I have a girlfriend who runs every time life gets too tough. I say stay. If you really want it then stay. No one ever said life was going to be easy but we were promised that we would not be given more than we could bear. When you said the vows you became one. You cannot be one in two separate places. Even if you have to take up sleeping areas in different parts of the home you stay and work through whatever as a TEAM!!! If you don't want to stay, I say go and stay gone. There is too much emotional stuff to deal with as it is without all the running back and forth. Who says that when you do come back together that it will work if you could not make it work together in the first place. Especially if there are children involved the back and forth thing should not be done. Stay and work it out by any means necessary or go and be at peace.

Answer 3

Well, I have taken a week break from my husband when we've gotten into a huge fight that doesn't seem to have a solution and it has given both of us the chance to breath and bring into perspective the situation and relationship's worth... and at the end it results in positive thing... It has been a while since we have done this, now we have more than one bedroom where we can spend time apart without having to feel pressured to leave the house. That works as well and as long as each of us respect the others right to space and privacy.

The important thing is that both parties need to agree that this is a break to bring things to perspective, not to go around and do your own thing. If you are talking about taking a break from the actual relationship to feel what it is to be single again maybe you are just in the wrong relationship... And the pain that you could cause each other in that case is not worth going through it anyway...

That's my 2 cents in this matter..

Answer 4

well my girlfriend of 8 years ran when things got tough with us. I swear i would have stuck by her and our relationship no matter what was thrown at us. I think everyone is just a bit different though and very few people these days treat relationships seriously enough to work on them. Now days its when the going gets tough, someone gets going because the grass always appears to be greener on the other side.

Answer 5

What bothers me about your question is that it puts the responsibility only on the man. I think that if you ask 100 men that did this, most of them would say that they simply got tired of nagging, no sex, no affection, that they were put last in line behind children, job, friends, house, her mother.

Men who are well cared for by their wives, who have something worth fighting for, would face the Angle of Death himself with sling shot a smile.

Of course there are some guys that just can't take responsibility at all, we call them boys. It always amazes me how many women choose boys to be their mate, and then are stunned and angered when he turn out not to be a man.

Answer 6

If your husband has done this, leave now. You need to be married to a man, not a boy. Running away is never the answer to working out problems.

Answer 7

Not that this applies to you in any way...

I know as a man and in talking marriage with my guy friends, if a real man is made happy at home, he will probably not leave. Here is what real men want and will keep them from leaving.

Sex
Food
No Complaining---ever

If these things are provided, a real man is completely content. We aren't that deep girls!

Oh, and without exception, if you have provided these three things to your man, then you did not marry a REAL man. REAL men are damn hard to find. Next time try church to find a REAL man.

Answer 8

Who would even want a spouse that would bail out when the going gets tough? Life is full of adversity and if you have committed yourself to someone, you are obligated to be there when they need you most.

If any man say that they have done this, they need to check their title. They are no longer a man but a coward.

Answer 9

Well, I am the receiver of a spouse leaving for an extended period of time. She left, filed for divorce, found she was about to lose it all in court (kids, and what i consider useless junk) then low and behold I wasn't the bad father and useless husband that she initially thought after all. She said she still loved me, wanted back in the family unit. Oddly enough, I found that life without her was allot less stressful, financially stable, and I could really grow in maturity. My kids were starting to enjoy life more. So, I said thanks but, no thanks. This is where she turned evil! Very evil!

Answer 10

I think we all, male and female, have to take responsibility for who we are in our relationships. A man needs his wife to make him feel like a man, and a woman needs her husband to make her feel like a woman. Men need certain things and if they are not provided with them, they're not "running" from anything if they decide to go get what they want, instead of settling for what they don't want. And the same applies for women. If you love your man, be his woman.