I've been hurt and betrayed so many times.?

Question

I will be the first one to tell you that I am very trusting. I consider my fairly large group of friends all to be good friends and I tell them everything. This has led to heartache and betrayal a few times times before in my life, which ended up leading to switching schools several times and growing up painfully shy. I've come out of my shell and am now very outgoing. This time around I feel like most of my friends are truly good friends. We've been through a lot together. But there are people I spend A LOT of time with, sometimes more than my real friends, (my show choir and choir group) that have really hurt me. They talk about me behind my back and are two faced backstabbers. They've shown their true colors several times but I can't just avoid them. What can I do for the rest of the school year to keep the peace, to keep me from going insane (or becoming depressed), and what can I do in the long run to either a)avoid people like this or b) learn to deal with them??? Please help....

Answer 1

People are two-faced backstabbers, and that's so bad that you have to switch schools several times over??

I think you may have some really distorted ideas of how people should and do act.

Don't be naive and THINK that people are 100% reliably trustworthy. Rather, ACT as if they're more trustworthy than they are because, frankly, what they can do to you if you're wrong usually isn't that big a deal.