I have this friend. He always says that we're "bestfriends". And in the letters he's given me, he never fails to say that he thanks God for giving him a special friend like me. Sometimes, I just don't know though if he's telling the truth. Lately, he's been giving me gifts like a teddy bear, pillow and autograph. (In special occasions) but whenever I spend time with him, he seems silent and uncomfortable. He wouldn't joke around like when he's around with his friends. He's just so silent and I do most of the talking.. he's smiling though... ugh! Why wouldn't he open up to me even if he said I was his best friend? He's joking around and talks normally though when he's with his other friends though. I don't know anymore. And, when he asked me to be his prom date, he said: "Hey, (my name), you're my prom date already ok?" what's weird is that I was the last one he approached about that. When other girls were asking him to be his date, he just said: "sorry but I already have a date" ..
2007-03-21 13:59:25 · 6 answers · asked by Ichigo14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and, his whole family knows me! I'm a clumsy girl too but he just doesn't laugh at me but his eyes really show concern. We're distant bec. we're not in the same level but people say that when we are together, we seem to be "close" or "connected" but that's just not the case. And, another thing, does he still think I have a crush on him bec. I told him so 3 yrs. ago? maybe he's just being nice to me because I told him so... and during the prom... he was so different. He never failed in accommodating me. He was so consistent in asking all my needs and tending to them. And he was sweet too in asking permission frm me wenever he was going to dance with someone else. I was his first and last dance though. And he didn't leave me alone the whole night. He told me that he should prioritize my prom date.. I found it unusual though bec. in normal days, he always seems to be in a hurry and we don't seem to talk much. And he's so supportive too. He's always there for me whenever I need cheeringup
2007-03-21 14:06:05 · update #1
I have been a marriage and relationship counselor for the last few years. I've often talked to young women about their relationships and about how the early stages of their relationship occured.
To answer your question, it doesn't sound like this guy is interested in you romantically. It appears he does have a special interest in you, but it isn't in a way that would develop as I suspect you would hope.
Also he seems to either a) take you for granted (such as the prom date scenario) or b) he doesn't have interest in girls. Often boys at this age are not entirely in sync with their sexuality, so it's possible he hasn't come out with his real feelings.
However, to test any theories you may have, perhaps be a little more aggressive in your behavior. If he responds positively, he may in fact hold feelings for you. However, if he continues to be shy (as most likely will happen), he doesn't have any interest. If this happens, try to keep some distance for awhile and move on.
I hope I've been of help :)
2007-03-21 14:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by eckya10 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all... do you know what brevity means? Think about what you want to say before you start typing. Okay, this dude wants you so bad, but the problem is that they just don't know how to show it. You have to test the situation. I reccomend giving something that is more personal than your normal relationship. Give him a copy of the movie 'lost in translation' if he does not respond right away after watching the movie then move on to the next gift (like I said guys need more than gentle nudges). Give hime a teddy bear with a big heart on it. If that does not get him to tell you what he is feeling, then give him a pair of frilly lace enderwear. Make sure they are your size. If this does not get him to talk to you about his feelings... then he is a gay wad. Good luck I hope this cleared things up for you.
2007-03-21 21:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by blameless7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is that so confusing to you? He sees you as his best friend and that's great! He may just not be ready for an intimate relationship - he obviously cares deeply about you but may be confused about himself. Give him time - you're happy with the friendship right? Just enjoy it - good friends are not easy to come by.
2007-03-21 21:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he likes you. He may just be embarrasses to be seen around u with those certain friends. Maybe he thinks they will make fun of him. Those other friends obviously don't care that hes seen with you. so he acts like himself. With that prom thing that obviously shows that he likes you. He turns down all them other girls just to go with you. i I think that says a little more than being just "bestfriends." Who knows it might be true.
2007-03-21 21:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Thad L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are not that hard to figure out.He is in love with you but he is afraid if he tells you ,you will laugh at him or with drawl you friendship.He would rather have you as a friend than take a chance of not having you in his life at all.Maybe you should make the first move...good luck
2007-03-21 21:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a good chance he doesn't know the answers to these questions either.
Suggestion -- tell him how YOU feel, confused or not, and convince him it's REALLY OK if he doesn't feel exactly the same way.
2007-03-21 22:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋