I found out that my husband was having an affair.I still love him very much since this has happen we have been cryin together and it seem like we have come closer than ever.He told me everthing that went on but says he dont no why he did it he just did it .It started by gettin a ********.I want to give it another try and then there the other side of me tellin me to kick his *** and move on .He says this has taught a vauable lesson. He said it was hurting evertime he went around her and he couldnt take hurting me any more and had to come clean.Because the other woman started gettin mad therating to tell me. Because she would see him talking to other women and get mad at him.He said it turned into some real drama .
2007-03-21 13:53:51 · 2 answers · asked by klo jones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he really came clean because he thought he was going to get ratted on. If he was takling to other women and making the mistress jealous, then that means it wasn't just about that "one" other woman.
Your husband may be serious about fixing things, but can you trust him again? If you can't trust him, or if you don't think you will be able to trust him, then you should probably just end it now.
I don't believe in the whole "once a cheater always a cheater", but I also don't see why he came clean in the first place. It sounds like he was afraid of the fallout from the other woman.
If you can trust him, forgive him. Take him back. Go through counseling. Talk about everything until you feel like he's being totally honest with you.
Good luck.
2007-03-22 07:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by ski4ever1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh - maybe he learned his lesson! The punishment for bigamy is... two wives!
So she's a drama queen and he found out that being naughty doesn't pay.
If you love him very much and you are convinced he is willing to put effort into the relationship with you, how about the both of you go to couples counselling?
2007-03-21 20:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋