my friend said that she would not only agree for a stripper at sher husbands bachelor party but he would pay for it also and that on their anniverseries they would have threesomes! Is that a healthy thing in a relationship or not? Should the husband agree or say no to infidelity?
2007-03-21 13:35:46 · 15 answers · asked by missionary_koolaid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I used to be a stripper. Im free of charge, too, but only if sex is in the deal.
Email me.
2007-03-21 13:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ariel 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
to each his own! my husband and I are in agreement that 3somes are not cool when in a serious relationship. However, I do not care if my husband watches porn or if he had a stripper at his Bachelor party because I know he loves me. Some couples have open marriages and enjoy swinging or whatever, I don't agree with it, but can't say it isn't healthy or unhealthy because I think each situation is unique and everyone is different. If both partners agree I don't see why not.
2007-03-21 13:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if your wife agrees and pays for a stripper why not, it just means that she trust him enough not to go further with it and have sex. Now if you are married and you both agree to threesomes and both enjoy it, then its only normal to you or your marriage. But other people don't agree and the point is if you both want to and do and nobody is getting hurt then its normal for you, but don't push this on others as they have different viewpoints and may not agree or even say its abnormal and normal anything is something you have to decide for yourself. Take care Heather
2007-03-21 13:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not infidelity, not within the parameters of their relationship.
I had a stripper at my bach party, and told my wife everything. She was fine with it. Why? Because she knows in the end I am coming home to her, I share my bed, my hardships, my joys, my whole life with her. Infidelity means unfaithful, the stripper is just a pair of ****, he's not running away and buying a home in the suburbs with her, he's sticking ones in her cleavage. And even if he's doing more, it's with his wife's consent and within the covenant they share.
Interesting foot note: A number of studies have shown that the divorce rate amonst swingers is between 5 and 15% compare to the non-swinging average of 50%. You tell me who has better trust and communication.
2007-03-21 13:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? I'd kick my husbands butt if he even thought about it after the wedding. Anything goes before the wedding, but there will be no threesomes, my dear.
Is your friend sure that his wifes' idea of a threesome means adding another FEMALE to the mix? I'd clarify that right now if I were him.
If she's willing to hand him women on a platter every year, doesn't he think she's going to want to have sex with some random guy every so often?
I'm not sure she's into monogomy and it makes me wonder why she'd want to get married if she isn't going to be faithful at all.
2007-03-21 13:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is comfortable with it and doesn't think his relationship will suffer in the long run, fine.
But, as a cautionary measure--for the most part, this is a prelude to future problems seeing as she is putting a stamp of approval on infedility before they are even married. Looks like a case of "we have always done these things, why would you be upset or jealous?" later on....
2007-03-21 13:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she agreed to pay for a stripper. I didn't see where you said she agreed to infedelity. She might be ok with you looking. But are you sure she's ok with you touching? Be careful dude. You could kill the marriage before it even starts.
2007-03-21 14:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Buckwheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his wife is a closet lesbian! What straight woman would want to have sex with another woman (which is a major part of any 2 woman 1 man three way)?
2007-03-21 13:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude or anything but why the hell get married just be single if your gonna do all that stuff, there is no point to marriage if you act single plus divorce is expensive. I know there is no rules to marriage oh wait yeah there is YOUR VOWS don't take them if you are not going to follow them. It makes married people look bad.
2007-03-21 14:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by pumpkinautumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK? Is this marriage soley for tax purposes or what?
This behavior is great for television content but not for real life! I think marriage is already tuff enough without adding unnecessary bullsh*t! Don't you agree?â£â¥
2007-03-21 13:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by ☆♥•´`•.¸ ;-) •´`•.¸ ♥☆ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋