Anorexic?????

Question

Okay... so here's the lowdown. I'm seriously afraid of being fat, even though everyone tells me i'm like way too skinny. i weigh about 100 lbs and i'm 5'8" and i'm 14.75 yrs old. people tell me i have borderline anorexia, but i'm not sure... i just wanted to know. and to anyone that's reading this and has read my last post, i got worse since then, then got a little better, then got worse again. i feel so disgusting after i eat. like i wish i could go throw it all up. i do 100 sit ups at least every night. plus there's pressure from track and volleyball to be thin. i just need to know what's wrong with me.

i can't tell anyone though. i'll be taken to a shrink, my friends will all freak out hwenn they hear, and my 2 best friends, who are also battling this, will think i've let them down. i can't do anything. AND I KIND OF DON'T WANT TO.

Answer 1

People that are TOO skinny are unattractive. Go eat some chips.

Answer 2

Okay Honey, first of all you need to tell your parents how you feel because no 14 yr old should be worried about what they are eating when they are so active as you are.

No 14 yr old should worry about how much they weigh when you are already WAY TOO skinny.

Anorexia isn't about being thin. It's about feeling out of control. Like you feel like everyone is telling you what to do everyday all day long and you have no control over anything that is happening to you.

A lot of over achievers have eating disorders because they feel like they HAVE to live up to so many expectations. They feel like weight and food (or lack there of) is something they have absolute and total control of. It really does stem deeper than just wanting to be thin for sports and look good.

I spent 4 months in an eating disorder clinic when I was 18 and had a hard time realizing that it was a psychological problem more than just a social problem of wanting to be thin and beautiful and fit and make everyone happy. It goes so much deeper then that.

Get help, please. Eating disorders cause depression, suicide, and harm to your body that is irreversible. You are too young to throw your health away. I wish I could be there right now and give you a big hug and get you some help. Eating disorders kill people everyday. God bless. I will pray for you.

Answer 3

Many people have said, "see a therapist." That's pretty good advice, as far as it goes, but be sure not to accept that label. Like some have said, it isn't like you have cancer or anything, but you have issues with food, it would seem. Keep excercising, though. See a therapist, sure, but study up on a good, balanced, excercise routine. Don't eat crap food. Many many foods make me ill, and the same for other people I know. Eat lots of raw vegetables and fruits. They are much less sick-making, even if you may not love the taste. You are an intense kid. Keep up your extra curriculars, but maybe swing something more low-key, like yoga or tai-chi, on the side. Maybe it will help you chill, a little. Sure, go see a therapist. She may say "oh you have anorexia," but let that pass. There is nothing 'wrong' with you. You just aren't crazy about food. Especially, when everyone else is so fat, many many many people will try to tell what is 'wrong' with you. There is pressure everywhere for people to be thin, because the nation is so stinking fat. You've already solved that. When I was your age, there were no skinny volleyball girls! (I joke, I joke) Don't worry about it so much, but try to eat a little more. Again, fresh vegitables are great, beacause you can eat a little piece at a time, and let your stomach get the hang of things, and they won't weigh you down and clog your arteries like sicky greasy grimy crap. As an active person, you need a little meat too, but not all that much. Sure, see a therapist, but if they try to treat you like you have this 'condition' (oooooooooo) get somebody else. Half of all therapists suck. Seriously. A good one IS a gem, but, just like good friends, a good therapist is hard to find.

Answer 4

Okay iam skinny but i can eat anything in the world and still be skinny but thats just me.
I know how hard it is to be anorexant becuase it is a disorder and you know when you are when you feel disgusted when eating and barely eats for days. But there are people who have it worts than you. Continue eating good foods like veggies, fruites, crackers, and get some meat on your bones and swear you cant be fat. Youre underweight but its a good thing you play a sport so you can get active if you are more worried check with your parents about this and go to a docter or so.
Take care

Answer 5

I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN. I have lots of pressures to be thin too. (i am a dancer) All the people that tell you to grow up and such are just mean. It is sooo much deeper than "just go eat a bag of chips". Hun, you need to go talk to a counselor or a trusted adult because you are headed for misery and most likely an eating disorder. Eating diorders NEVER GO AWAY. They are there every day for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Please, go talk to someone so that you can achieve a better self image and mindset. You being 5'8 and 100 ;bs sounds on the very think side. I know you must feel fat everyday looking at yourself in the mirror, I used to feel that way and I used to suffer froma negative body image. I always envied my other "skinnier" friends and wanted bodies like theirs. This is road to failure and very low self esteem. I opened up to my mom and she gave me the confidence and re assurance I needed. Now, I feel much better about having another helping of potatoes. If you need to talk, e-mail me at this address:

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Answer 6

Go to the library and get some books on anorexia to read . You need to understand what the psychology of anorexia nervosa is. It is about people feeling out of control and the only thing they feel they can control is what and when they eat. Sometimes perfectionists become anorexic. Often it is the "good little girl" of the family who holds the family together and never causes any trouble and takes on a lot of family responsibility.

Answer 7

Going to a psychologist isn't is bad as you think, i have one(not of the same reason though)and its really nice to have someone to tell all your problems to. If your friends are really friends they wont mind, they ll understand that you have some things you need to work threw. What exactly are you eating? If your eating pizza or chips no matter how much I understand where you coming from. Try eating things your confident about like vegetables, fruits, or even look up some healthy recopies. O, and think healthy not thin.

Answer 8

You exhibit symptoms of anorexia for sure. If you're eating normally (and not throwing it up), you're doing relatively well.

But... I can tell that you're not only bothered by being fat or by feeling gross after eating... you're also bothered by the fact that you do this. You're not far away from that diagnosis. I'm not going to tell you you're not fat. You hear that enough. What I'll tell you is that you're struggling with something that millions of other girls also go through. Tell your mom you'd like to find a good therapist and discuss these things. Anorexia is hell. Keep an eye on yourself and eat healthy (and I trust you know what healthy means).

Answer 9

The different types of eating desorders. The most common are anorexia and bulimia. Anorexia is stopping eating food and only drinking liquids to keep yourself hidrated without gaining much weight. I had that and now I'm overcoming it by putting positive thoughts in my mind. Me just by myself and with the help of support by my family and friends I get to feel better and now I get to eat little by little but I'm doing it. Now Bulimia is when you eat and eat and then throw up.

Go to a couselor or a phsycologist.

Answer 10

i would go see a therapist, they do have "group homes" that have other girls with the same problems there, they help you with your problems and get u back to health.. being that skinny is not healthy what so ever... use the net and look it up.. sooner or later it could kill you!! As far as sports go, yea they want you to be thin, but more healthy then anything.. if they are telling you, that you are fat... i would ditch the sports until you are more comfortable with yourself... because they are just bringin you down...

Answer 11

oh hun. thats thin!
i am 5'10" and i weigh about 145!
and people say i am skinny!
in my opnion, you dont need help.
you just need to sit down, right down everything thats good about you and carry it around with you everywhere that you go. whenever youre down or depressed read it and remeber that its okay to eat! if you didnt you wouldnt be alive! food is your friend. there are so many delicious foods out there that wont make you fat. its hard to gain that much weight at such a young age expecially when you do 100 situps every night! you wont get fat, dont worry! please eat something, even if its just a carrot!