ok, here's my situation. i had a relationship end about six months ago with somebody i really loved. i think i might be ready to date again, but i'm not really sure. i'm afraid that if i start dating again I'm going to have my ex in the back of my mind. do you think it is normal for me to feel this way? is a first date after a serious relationship difficult? i know that eventually i have to get out there and start dating, because i want to find that special someone, but i'm just afraid of what i might feel.
2007-03-21 13:24:10 · 6 answers · asked by frankfurter27 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's normal to think about your old relationships during a first date with a new person but don't let that affect your night. You might have a tendency to compare your date with old relationships but that's not a good idea. Take it for what it is, this date has much to offer that your old relationships didn't and you can't nitpick about such details. For the sake of your new relationship you should move on and not think about such stuff but sometimes people do tend to reminisce about the past (usually the happy times they had with their ex).
The first date is sometimes very difficult out of a serious relationship because you have been in a relationship for so long and feel as though you don't know what it takes to date anymore. But you have to relax and just let it flow. The more comfortable you are about moving on the more fun you'll have on your date and the more you'll be able to appreciate this new person.
2007-03-21 13:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoo!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to be affraid of dating again, especially since you have a bad memory off the last one. You are associating feels, be careful. Just go out and do it. If I said I got shot while eating a hotdog, it would be normal for me to feel like I never want to eat another hotdog again (because I associated pain with the hotdog) but in reality...it's not logical. So go out there, have fun , and make your self a good memory with a new person. Good luck!
2007-03-21 14:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're letting your fears limit you.
Go on a few dates and you'll find that you memories become less powerful.
2007-03-21 13:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. Go ahead and enjoy. its your life.
2007-03-21 13:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is short, make it sweet...
go ahead Njoy life..
2007-03-23 07:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by kooootzzz... 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on... go ahead with your life...
all the best.. :)
2007-03-21 14:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by maverick_youth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋