HELP 15 and pregnant?

Question

im 15 and pregnant. please help. i dont know what to do. im really upset im really scared. im 2 months pregnant and yes my parents know. but the real fahter dosnt know yet. PLEASE HELP ME. im very scared.

Answer 1

Tell him. If he accepts it he accepts it. If not, there's always child support. At least your parents know and hopefully they're accepting. Parents are the hardest to tell, so this one should be easier.

Answer 2

You have 3 options:

1. Have the baby and keep it.
I would only suggest this if you REALLY want to, and if you talk it through with family and the father. Realize that this will probably ruin your education and the next 18 years of your life will be spent raising a child.

2. Have the baby and put it up for adoption.
This is a better option because you are only 15, and (no offense) a 15 year old who doesn't have the maturity to know to have protected sex isn't ready to raise a child. Trust me.

3. Abortion.
There is nothing wrong with abortion, especially in the first 3 months. In the first 3 months, the baby isn't alive; it has no heart beat, no brainwaves, no consciousness, no self-awareness, no life. It's not even a baby, it's developing from an embryo to a fetus. Pregnancy is also painful and will make the next few months of your life miserable. You will hate the way you look and your body will be under a lot of stress. If you haven't heard of morning sickness, your body will teach you pretty soon.

Whatever you choose, remember:

It's your body, your choice.

Good luck, don't be scared, there's plenty of people who can help you out (like your PARENTS!!!!)

Answer 3

wow that is a huge step but i have been there. I am 16 and a mother of a 1 year old. I had my daughter Mercedes Ann when i was 15. I had the same feelings. i was scared, upset, really emotional, and i didnt tell the babies real dad when i found out. i didnt until i was starting to show. He took it really hard but was really really mad because i did not tell him when i found out!! He says A guy is better off to know he is going to be a dad when the girl first finds out because he has all those months to get used to it. if you tell him when you are 5 months chances are he wont be as settle with it when the baby is born!!So tell him when you get the chance. If he dont accept it is his loss and his mind might change because of his family or even when he sees the baby when it is born. He also needs to be there to help you whether to keep the baby or give it up for adoption!!! So just tell him as soon as you can. it will help!!! Good luck

Answer 4

Baby Boo,
Listen, I have to scold you to a degree. Honey you are a baby yourself having a baby. The maturity level is not there. You may think it is, but it is not. You are going to have a long life ahead of you. STAY IN SCHOOL. It will be hard, but stay in school. Always keep your head and be strong for you and your child. There will be times where you just want to give up. But you keep your head up to the sky and say to yourself that you can do. OK enough scolding.
Now the child's father: You should tell him. Although it is your decision, he should know. Let him decide on whether to be in the child's life or not and MAN up and be a real father. If he don't MAN up, then child support baby. If he do MAN up, then let him learn on parenting with you. That is key. You guys are young. You have no idea on how you want to raise your child. You may have different views. Communication will go along way.
Honey I know its a scary process for you, but with the guidance of your parents and your faith, you will be able to handle it.
Make sure after you have your child to protect yourself for this can happen again and having two at a young age is not fun.
Good Luck and be thankful you have wonderful parents.

Answer 5

Oh, sweety I know your scared but it will be okay. Don't listen to the people on here who are being mean either. You do need to tell the father though no matter how hard it is. It can't be any harder than telling your parents. That was so hard for me, so good for you!!! You need to talk to the father and to your parents some more. I'm sure your mom has some good advice for you too. Whatever you decide, remember that the ultimate decision is up to you. Don't let anyone push you to do something you aren't comfortable with or don't want to do. Good luck and you'll be okay.

Answer 6

Ignore any idiots that suggest not telling your boyfriend. Why shouldn't he know? If you intend to involve him in any way or want some financial assistance or want to stay with him, dishonesty will kiss that all goodbye. Also it gets hard to hide after a couple of months.

I told some family and friends when an unplanned pregnancy happened to me, before I told my boyfriend. He was incredibly hurt that he was one of the last to know, and the trust in our relationship was dead. Too make it worse I miscarried and our relationship was over. Nothing in this world is for sure, you don't want to risk losing both like I did.

Tell him as soon as possible. Remeber when you tell him you had 2 months to get used to the idea. He has not, expect him to freak, don't judge him for it, give him space, let him breathe, he will probably react well given the time. The later you tell him the less time he has to get used to the idea, and prepare for the child if you decide to keep it.

Answer 7

do you have a relationship with the father? your primary concern should be the health of yourself and your child. There are many things you need to find the answers to. Establish yourself with a OB doctor in the area that has experience in dealing with teen pregnancy and make sure you have a strong support system around you, your parents, doctors, any anyone else who will be supportive. If you haven't made any decisions on whether to keep the baby, terminate the pregnancy then you need to decide that. I would call the father and his parent(s) and let them know by meeting them in person with your parents with you. If you get no support from them then you and your parents will need to make the decisions on your own. Stop any risky behaviors NOW and concentrate on taking care of yourself and finding the proper care for you and your baby. Get on good quality prenatal vitamins now if you aren't already on them, they are very important but talk with the OB for any dietary needs.

Answer 8

you didnt lay down and make this baby by yourself. You need to sit down with him alone and tell him!!! and if he leaves you then that is not a real man or if you cant tell him than you guys were not serious enough and shouldnt have done that.
But i still think you are too young but i dont know you or him so i cant judge.
GOOD LUCK, i hope you will get all the help, guidance and support you need. You got a long road ahead and just remain calm and patient. I just went through my first pregnancy. GOOD LUCK their bundles of joy

Answer 9

Baby I am so sorry, you are so young and have your whole life ahead of you. You have done hardest part by telling your parents. You will get through this though, it's not the end of the world, if you have caring parents they will help you through this, and guide you in the right direction. Good luck ok sweetie :-)

(P.S. Call the father immediately because he help put you in this situation maybe he can be some comfort)

Answer 10

Be strong and be patient! It's ok to be scared, but at least your parents know and it seems like they're being supportive. I would tell the father, even if you don't want to be with him because it is his child, and he has the right to know, and to establish child support. Please, don't even think of getting married or living with him, and please stay in school. Your life will change, but it's not all for the worst. Your baby will make you happy, even after a difficult day, your baby's smile will be the best reward. There are many hard days ahead, and you will have to work extra hard, for you and for your baby. I wish you the best, and the best advice I can give you is stay in school and get an education.

Good luck!

Answer 11

sweetie , my heart goes out to you.You took the biggest step of all and that was telling your parents, now you have to take that other step and tell the daddy, hopefully he will help you and be there for you.You and your parents along with his parents and him need to sit down and talk now.You all have to figure out where to go next, are you going to keep the baby? or maybe give it up for adoption? I don't know much else to say except if you need someone to just listen to you, i will lend you an ear just email me.i wish you the very best and good luck sweetie