Sunday my husband chewed me out at Penney's b/c I was havign a hrad time deciding on curtains. He yelled at me in front of my mother. I asked him to not yell at me infront of my family. He got mad and when it was all said and done. He told me I was laxy, worthless and I meant nothing to him. I have been with him for 30 years. I am thinking of leaving him but I am scared ---it has been so long. He never tells me he loves me or that I look good. I am blond petite and weigh a whole whoping 105 lbs. I think I am heading for divorce.
2007-03-21 13:10:55 · 8 answers · asked by sharon w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
after all those 30 odd years you think he would respect you
well I could only advise that you dont deserve the bad mouthing, the little respect, the manipulation and intimidation
there is a door - walk through it - and dont look back
life is too short to stay in an unhappy situation
he will soon regret how he has treated you after you have left
but hey - you do not have to live it
BE HAPPY then you might lose some weight also
stress is a major part of either weight loss or weight gain
2007-03-21 13:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, I am so sorry... you have wasted to much time.. but it is never too late... Always there is time to realize that life is not only suffering. It is time to rest and start to think about yourself. You are scared because so far the only thing or the only life you have known is what he has provided to you. Be happy, close that door, and you will see how many others will be opened for you... Do not be affraid... Behind that door there are many , a lot of wonderful people waiting for you... but you have to close that painful chapter in your life, and be open to experience new things... Turn around and watch... Perhars you will need some proffesional help to get your LIFE back, because that was not a life... was a torture... so, say bye bye, and awake to the new world, there are a lot of people who love you and still you donot realize it... Good luck my friend...
2007-03-21 20:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Awareness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him about how you felt when he yelled at you in front of your mother see if he'll go to marriage counseling with you if it doesn't work out then divorce him but 30 years is too long to give up try get things back to how it use to be he might be going threw a change his self getting older
2007-03-25 17:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to someone at your local domestic violence office. There are many types of abuse..it sounds like your husband is verbally, mentally and emotionally abusive. See a therapist for yourself and talk through these issues...it will help you use your reasoning skills to come to the decision that is right for you. If money is an issue, contact your local mental health office.
2007-03-21 20:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same thing, with my ex. He never told me I was pretty or that he loved me. When I ask him about it he would say stuff like. If you weren't pretty you wouldn't be here. Or if I didn't love you you wouldn't be here. He also put me down in front of my family or friends. That's why we are not together any more.
2007-03-21 20:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be time to see a marriage counselor, if that doesnt work then try talking to him on your own, after that if nothing is accomplished then yes it will be time to move on....
2007-03-21 21:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is afraid of losing you and this is his way of controlling you by making you feel unworthy for other relationships. Tell him you want to go to counseling and if his behavior doesn't stop then leave.
2007-03-21 20:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun there is someone out there who would treat you how you deserve to be treated and it will be hard but you are worth it besides i just found out how fun dating could be i had forgotten also isn't it better to be happy and single that miserable and married?
2007-03-21 20:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by jodie6682 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋