My stepfather spanked me and then my mother called my dad and now i am getting another from my dad =[?

Question

is this fair?

well my step dad has been warning me all grading period if he saw a missing assignment on progress book i will be grounded and i didnt see the back of my math worksheet and my teacher said it was incomplete so that night after dinner he got on and he saw the incomplete and he grounded me and i got mad and started crying and he told me to stop being a baby and i shoved him and called him an *** (witch i know was wrong and childish and i regret it) and he grabbed me and took me to my room and belted me and after he made me take a quick shower and go to bed and when mom came home he told her and she called my dad and told him and now he is coming to pic me up after school tomorrow and probally punish me worse cause he says that disrepecting him and my step dad is a major no no! now i know i'm not to old for spankings but i've already been punished once and i am sorry and i just dont understand why i have to get it twice! what do hink is his reason?

it hurts though! they last for 15 minutes when he dose it! and i'm not allowed to rub!

i'm 14...my parents were seperated before i could remember and my step dad has been my step dad since i was 6 or 7 =/

Answer 1

ouch that sucks .... i would be pissed lol but you should apologize

Answer 2

I can understand how you started crying (out of frustration, probably) but no parent, step or otherwise, can ever take, or should ever take being shoved and cursed at.
That is where you went wrong.
I could say your step dad was mean but he is making you pay attention to your schoolwork. I'm much much older than you are and I made the same mistake during a test and almost got an incomplete! I didn't know there were more questions on the back.
However, it does make you pay attention when someone sets standards high. Your dad agrees with your step dad about setting high standards for schoolwork, it sounds like.
Take the punishment (believe me, in the army you take a lot more crap for a lot smaller mistake so get used to it now!) and learn from it.
Try to go forward and do better. Maybe your dad won't punish you a second time. He runs the risk of playing 'good dad ' to your stepfather's 'bad dad' and so I hope he doesn't try to comfort you for being unfairly punished. You were warned all grading period!

Answer 3

I could see this kind of reaction from parental figures with a young child, but 14 years old? I'm not exactly sure what your step father and fathers reasoning is, but if there is any other element to this physical abuse, including sexual or verbal abuse, then I would seek the support of your mom or a nurse at school. There is a fine line between caring about a person and abusing them. Your parents care about you, and I was still grounded and punished at 14, but a spanking seems a little much for your age. You are beginning the point in your life where you and your parents should be able to talk about things in a rational manner, not just "solve" things with corporal punishment. I think the first spanking was uncalled for, let alone a second one! You should understand why you are being grounded, but as you get older there are more effective ways to communicate between adults beyond them just using physical power over you. Be good, stay in school, do your homework, and let someone know if these punishments are more than just spankings.

Answer 4

if he does that for 15 mintues that is considered abuse u NEED to tell soemone about it. if he has done this more that once u need to talk to an outside source. He is ur step dad he should not be putting his hands on u for any reason. And yeah i dont think its rite that u gotta get in trouble twice but u dont have much say in the matter. Not to mention ur human and u made an honest mistake by not seeing the back of the worksheet and if ur step father cant see that then he is putting the standard of perfection iin the picture. im sorry that u have to go through this. i hope that this helps. good luck!

Answer 5

no, it's not fair you getting spanked twice. just like in court you can't be tried for the same trial twice. but your step dad shouldn't have spanked you in the first place because if he didn't raise you from a baby, he shouldn't put he's hand on you unless hugging or kissing, your biological parent's should be the only ones to punish you, period. so I don't think it's right for you to get spanked twice and I think it's down right wrong for your step dad to touch you anyway, so if you ask me if it happens again I think you should call social services and talk to them about your situation.

Answer 6

I think you are sooooooooo lucky to have three people love you so much, they will not tolerate bad behavior. Not doing the home work is not a good idea, especially when you were for -warned. But to try the tear thing, and be desrespectful, means you NEED what ever it takes, to get this corrected. I guarantee you, it really is for your own good. I do not know how old you are, but, you said he made you take a shower. I hope your privacy was not an issue. I hope you will feel very lucky, to have a step dad care that much. I wish my grand daughter's step dad cared that much!!! As for being punished twice, I doubt the father will spank you, but he might think of a way to re-inforce respect. I hope you will apologize sincerely, for the temper tantrum, and promise them respect, and to try not to let it happen again. They will surely respect the apology. and please do remember to do the home work, chores, etc. It helps us be better people. Hvae a great day,,,,hope your butt remembers well!!

Answer 7

I am disgusted that you have so many answers telling you to be grateful that you have all these people who care about you. They do care that you do well in school and that you are respectful to them but it sounds like you are but you are also afraid...respect is earnt not bullied. You are being abused - if I was you I'd talk to your school or phone a confidential child helpline. In UK this would count as child abuse. I am sad for you. I never hit my children they respect me because I respect them. It also sounds like your dad might be scared of your step dad - you should not be punished twice, the punishment should always fit the crime. grounding and beatings do not fit a missed page of homework. PLEASE seek advice from someone you trust

Answer 8

i'm sorry yet I have been given bored after analyzing you requested your COP dad to bypass to a occasion. Do you comprehend the way many medications and underage toddlers eating he sees? He has considered the worst of the scum in this worldwide he does that for a residing no ask your self he's strict. As for spanking initiate shouting confident! greater ! i like it! If he does not stop then you definately could in all possibility attempt to discover a foster domicile.

Answer 9

I was brought up to respect my elders, too. The punishment is because you didn't respect your stepfather. I agree that being punished twice for the same "crime" is very unfair. But at least your real father is still around. Mine died of cancer when I was your age!! My Mum never re-married. I hope all goes well!

Answer 10

You sound a bit too old to be spanked.

How old are you?

This sounds a bit abusive to me and will not improve your grades.

Please talk to a counselor about this and get the support you need.

I do not advocate spanking and unfortunately it is not illegal or frowned upon unless marks are left.

I feel however that it is leaving physiological damage.

Talk to a counselor right away they will hold this in confidence.

Answer 11

No that's not fair getting punished twice for a missing assignment.