Would it be better for my 4 year old son to be living w/me 4 hours away from his dad(my husband)or for us all to be living together in this situation?...It's his idea for us to move away for awhile to save $ & b/c we don't see each other much b/c he's always "working". I have found good reason to believe he's seeing someone when he's supposedly working. Do I try to make it work w/my husband (he says after awhile we can move back when he stops "working" so much) no matter how I feel(not being able to trust him, not knowing what he's doing, etc.)or do I just end it & move on even though it means my son won't see his dad very much at all? I don't want him to grow up & think this is how a "family" man should act, but I don't want him resenting or blaming me for splitting w/my husband & him not having his dad around much. I also want him to feel secure & stable. If he's been cheating, though, & not really "working" on weekends, then he's been "cheating" on my son, also.
2007-03-21 13:05:02 · 6 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I say reason I have reason to believe he's been seeing someone I mean that I know he's gone to the movies, to restaurants(once even w/my son & some girl from his work & her little girl...my son told me), a receipt for lingerie, etc. All this time he's supposedly been working.
2007-03-21 13:07:45 · update #1
Honey if you have reason to believe your husband is cheating. Then don't move back with him. If you move back and then you have to leave again that's not good for your son either. You have your son with you so just love him and someday when the time is right you can talk about how it should be in a marriage. But don't go back just for your son, its not good for him to see you in misery and unhappy. Good luck!
2007-03-21 13:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, as often as I answer your questions I am starting to feel like we have some kind of connection here. Please, listen to me this time as a guy who has been in a bad situation.
Honey, he is cheating on you and you are looking for reasons to stay when he is showing you that he wants you to go by telling you to go away.
It's over, let it go and take care of you and your boy and make sure that your boy has a healthy happy life even if his father is being a knob and wants to be with someone else. There are much better guys out there than the one that you have. There are a lot of really nice guys out there who would love you and care for you the way that you deserve and never treat you the way that you current is.
Call it an end and start on a new path that is completely you and your child. You'll be better off in the end, trust me.
2007-03-21 21:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son needs to see that you tried to make your relationship work even when it's tough but he needs to see that if someone is lying, there are consequences. I'm sorry but it sounds like your husband has given up on your marriage and the only thing you can do is start taking care of you and your son. If he wants to see his son, he can leave his girlfriend and drive to spend some time with his child.
2007-03-21 20:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it will hurt for you to read this, but I will leave. If you seen the evidence of things like lingerie and you know it wasn't for you, then why would you stay? You son wouldn't resent you. You will just have to sit him down and talk to him. But I wouldn't stick around and wait for him, I would personally leave.
2007-03-21 20:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you see why he wants you and your son to move away awhile so he can cheat on you probally with the women you said your son saw him with id tell him im not going if he insists id divorce him
2007-03-21 20:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all should be living together, whatever the circumstances.
2007-03-21 20:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋