when we know in our hearts we are usually waiting for it to be given back?
2007-03-21 12:58:40 · 8 answers · asked by Scarlett 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Our feelings themselves are different than true unconditional love. True unconditional love, for me, is all that the Bible says it is in 1 Corinthians chapter 13: patient, kind, does not boast, does not seek its own. When we expect something in return, it is only our human nature. True love comes from the soul, from the spirit, and in itself does not expect anything in return. That is why there is always going to be conflict in our hearts when it comes to love. But I believe that the part of us which loves without any seeming reason, such as when we love someone we cannot have, is actually that part of our soul which is the true unconditional love.
Excellent question :)
2007-03-21 15:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because human beings are, at heart, selfish and only do things because they expect something in return, which is common sense. Unconditional love means the love is unconditional between both people, meaning no one person has to give more love and affection than the other. If it wasn't ballanced, one might take advantage of the other for their own personal gratification and leave the other feeling used. Unconditional love should be a safeguard, not a straitjacket.
2007-03-21 20:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Psychosis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-03-21 20:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional, meaning without conditions. If we expect something in return then it is not unconditional.
Parental love should be unconditional yet some parents withdraw their love from disappointing offspring.
2007-03-21 20:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes true, for most of us, there is a 'waiting' in our hearts for it to be given back.
But there are a fortunate few, who have evolved into love as a way of their being itself ! Love is a personal quality for them. Like for most of us, nagging is a personal quality (even if nobody is there to listen, we would blabber with oneself, or the TV/COMPUTER monitor !), getting annoyed is a personal quality, hatred, arrogance etc, the manifestation is situation dependent. Likewise, love for such people would manifest only if the situation requires. Else, they are just loving beings.
For such people, it is unconditional love. They are not dependent on the situation around to become loving beings !
2007-03-21 21:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wait for a return then it is not agape love.
Agape Love is unconditional Love as God Loves us not matter what wrong we have done to him. That does not mean that as a Father he will not punish for wrongdoing.
A real Father will spank his child yet still love him any way because he knows what is best for his child. God is a Father and he sees us as his children to be.
Then there is Phillos Love, which is brother or sister or friend Love, and conditional it is.
Then there Eros Love, which is the love of a spouse to another in marriage Women to Man Love Sexual Love. It is definitely conditional.
2007-03-21 20:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Michael JENKINS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice and it does not have to be reciprocated. Unconditional love means that no matter what a person does or says, you love them anyway.
2007-03-21 20:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people prefer to say things like that which make them feel better rather than the far less romantic reality.
2007-03-21 22:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by implosion13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋