get tested?
2007-03-21 12:47:33 · 25 answers · asked by Greed...Is Good 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I cheated...she has no idea.
2007-03-21 14:39:13 · update #1
With body armour and a helmet on, but either way do not continue without telling her. You do need to take responsibility for your actions.
2007-03-21 12:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy Girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down and tell her the truth. Don't let her go untreated and then start to break out and have to find out that way. You contracted the STD so you atleast owe her that much to tell her to get tested. Don't beat around the bush and come out and tell her. Worry about the consequences later, right now think of your wife's health and state of mind.
2007-03-21 19:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many different kinds of STD's....what STD are you talking about? and......are you sure its an STD. If it is HIV, I would tell her straight away, but have your bags packed and be ready to get out of there real fast. What a horrible thing to do to your wife. My husband cheated on me with several women and when I found out about it, while I was hurt at the fact he had been unfaithful, what made me more angry and upset was the fact that he didnt care enough about me to even worry about my health. Because of his infedilities he could have killed me.
No-one goes around with a flashing sign on their head saying they have an STD, so you should assume everyone has and protect yourself accordingly.
Tell her immediately and get it over and done with.....at least respect her enough so she can get treatment for the disease....and then I guess its up to her what she wants to do about the fact that you were irresponsible by putting her at risk. Infedility is one thing, but being stupid is another.
2007-03-21 20:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to suck it up and take responsibility. The only ting you can do now is tell her that you had a test that said you had an STD and that you would like her to be tested to make sure that she is clean. Of course, expect the questions of how you got it. But don't let her go untreated.
2007-03-21 19:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you screwed up big time...all you can do is go to her and confess, ask forgiveness and tell her she needs to be tested. If you are truly sorry and want the marriage to work you should tell her you want to go to marriage counseling with her. People make mistakes, lying and hiding things will only compound it by continuing to hide things. You took a chance on losing your wife and marriage--now you pay the price so to speak.
2007-03-21 20:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way to say it. You've been unfaithful and in doing so contracted a STD. She'll take it from there you poor thing.
Now just to finish it, if you say nothing and she says nothing you're not the only one sleeping outside of the marriage or she is willing to accept your unfaithfulness.
2007-03-21 19:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely she has an idea something is already wrong so you need to come "clean" and tell it all. The STD is one thing BUT how you contracted it is another. Be honest and CYA!
2007-03-21 19:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Patty G 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just tell her this is your responsibility. her health is in jeopardy. you were ok with committing adultery so be man enough to face the consequences. you making her pay for your stupidy would be selfish. i hope you have agood attorney. now ask yourself was it worth it to betray your family. not only did you run the risk of losing her but now you also have an std. it serves you right!!!!!!!! you're a dispicable person i hope she leaves your sorry a##. good people are always the ones to get hurt.
2007-03-21 19:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her - you didn't do it on purpose - I'm sure she'll be upset about having an STD but she shouldn't be mad at you.
I'm assuming you contracted this before you were married - you didn't cheat or anything did you??
2007-03-21 20:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cheated on who? did you or did she?
I was in this position once but I got it from an ex and I was dating my hubby for like 2 weeks and I was so afraid he was going to dump me but I knew i had to tell him the truth. lucky me he helped me a lot through that hell because i got the warts and had laser surgery 3 times and couldnt even walk let alone go to the bathroom because I had to keep the area "dry". i came up with the truth and my man stood by my side so do what you gotta do.
2007-03-21 20:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋