I have a really good friend named jake. He once dated my best friend. Jake and i kept talking after the two of them broke up. He came over last night and was very quiet. I asked what the matter was and be pretty much "came out" to me. He started to cry and asked if i thought of him any diff. I told of course not and that we will always be friends and told him that i would be there for him no matter what. Thats when he asked me if i would talk to his parents (whom i am also close to) and pretty much tell them he is gay. i was not lying when i said i would be there for him, but i told him i thought he should be the one to tell them. He got mad and now wont talk to me. I feel really bad and i wanted to help with ideas on how he can tell his parents, but i have no clue on what to do. any ideas? thanks in advance/
2007-03-21 12:42:41 · 4 answers · asked by carriec 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is not your job to solve his problems, trust me it ends up being more trouble than it is worth. The most important think you can do is be there for him. He is about to enter a very difficult part of his life and will need the support of a great friend.
You could offer to be a mediator for when he tell his parents, but you don't have to.
He will get over being mad, hes in a tough emotional state right now, I know from experience that just knowing that no matter what right now that someone is there for him is the most important thing.
2007-03-21 13:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lucas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's mad, let him get over it, remember he needs you, not the other way around. Also, if you said you would, then you should go with him and hold his hand and have his back, but let him do the talking. He should probably just tell them straight out, just say it, it wont hurt him but it WILL be hard. There's no right or wrong or an easy way to do it, just ask his parents for a meeting and let him spill his guts...
Good luck!
2007-03-21 19:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by Fashionista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that he needs to do himself. You did the right thing. Offer to be there with him when he does tell his parents, but he's the one that should do the talking.
2007-03-21 19:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Starscape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you will go wiht him not do it for him. he has to do it on his own he cant have poeple hold his hand and sppoon feed him
2007-03-21 19:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋