It depends if you want to raise children that are productive and fit into society. Hitting all the time makes them crazy, but no spanking at all lets them believe poor behaviour has no consequence..
2007-03-25 02:01:08
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answered by Boston Bluefish 6
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I hate to say this, but sometimes there is no choice. My parents kept it to a minimum and only used it when it was really necessary. Still, if a little kid who still hasn't learned the concept of "No" decides to see if he/she can burn the house down, it might be (somewhat) sensible to bend him/her over one's knee and demonstrate the effect of trying to burn the house down. (Not that I actually know this by experience. However, some parents should lock their cars when children are around, especially their own...)
It's not unlike raising puppies. (This isn't a great example, but it's the best one I have right now.) Suppose a new puppy is running around the house and leaving puddles and biological land mines (read:s**t) all over the place. Would you point at the puppy and say, "No!" and hope that it learned the lesson? By hard experience, I learned that this doesn't always work. (And it's a good explanation for why I'll never willingly buy a cat.) First, you have to catch it in the act; second, you have to scold it and, if necessary, rub its nose in the mess to let it know what it did wrong; and last, you have to spank it so that it can learn that leaving messes on the floor has an unpleasant result. Now, you don't have to tell me that kids aren't puppies, and I'll agree to the point that they don't look alike. But if you don't do this right away, the kid will think that he/she will get away with what he/she did, and will continue to do so, despite your best intentions. And, if they do something deliberately evil (kids can do it; trust me on this), it's like I said at the beginning: sometimes, there's no choice. Sorry, but that's how I see it.
2007-03-21 12:49:30
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answered by knight2001us 6
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this could be a state-of-the-artwork difficulty for you, so which you will might desire to think of with the aid of the way it would be ultimate to handle it. first of all, are your parents open on your comments, and do they admire your perspectives? If sure, then ask them in case you've gotten a communique and enable them to renowned the way you sense. If not, then it ought to not do any solid to declare some thing. Plan B: do you have a family individuals member or close family individuals chum you could refer to approximately this that could probable assist you to talk to them? additionally, are your sisters hit excessively, too oftentimes or very not straightforward? If sure, then you should to talk to a school counselor, because of the fact some intervention could be necessary. whether, if none of those plans look real searching on your difficulty, attempt leaving some printed articles on spankings and the undesirable outcomes it motives toddlers.... purely diffused tricks that they might verify out. with a bit of luck, you could refer to them approximately this, and enable them to renowned how plenty it bothers you. What a superb huge sis/bro you're! :) i'm happy they have you ever to flow to for convenience... solid luck!
2016-10-19 07:18:47
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answered by ? 4
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HELL YEAH!
I don't have any kids, but if/when I do, I surely will whoop them whenever need be. Growing up, my mother spanked me, my sisters, and my brother whenever we did wrong, and trust me, it worked...like a charm. There may have been a couple of times, in my more hard-headed, teenage years, when I repeated a certain behavior, but you better believe, they were few and far between, and I did it with great hesitation, cause I always knew the consequences.
2007-03-21 15:45:51
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answered by SweetMahogany 5
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I believe in hitting a kid on a diapered bottom. They can't really feel it thru the diaper, but the noise scares them enough that they know you mean business. Some kids just don't listen and they need that extra light swat to get through to them. I would never, ever hit hard enough to hurt. Just enough to make some noise and get their attention.
2007-03-21 12:56:07
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answered by Jahn 4
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i think when they took a little spank out of this country they messed up.. a lot of kids are rude and nasty to there parents because they can,t punish them with the swat on the keester;;;; if we spoke to our parents the way these kids do we would have soap plus a spank....i love kids i have 4 and by god they had a few spankin,s....i only know that my children spoil there kids and they have a mess on there hands ,due to there upbringing, and they know they can,t do anything....thanks
2007-03-21 12:43:32
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answered by Bonnie B 1
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if i hit, then so will the child
i don't like to spread violence
the world is violent enough without me adding to it
but if the child NEEDS it...i will not hit them
But i will make them stand in a corner with their arms up for about 5 minutes ((that hurts, and the feeling last longer than a spanking...spankings get old fast but that corner...stays fresh))
2007-03-21 12:49:16
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answered by Anonymous
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no i dont believe in it, u should be able to correct and control ur child without beating them and thats why it is critical to begin trianing children at an early age
2007-03-21 20:57:34
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you should set up boundaries for children and have different degrees of punishment for different offenses and when they go overboard you should whip that ***
2007-03-21 16:07:18
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answered by canielany 3
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I think a combination of physical love and physical discipline. If practiced mildly early on, it makes parenthood a whole lot easier.
2007-03-21 12:35:47
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answered by mac man 4
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