I cheated on my husband and told him. He doesn't want to be with me anymore. How do I get him back??

Answer 1

You can't...it is now 100% up to him...but why would he want to be with someone who cheated on him...even if you tell him it was a mistake etc...and will never happen again (which you didn't mention)...

Answer 2

I'm sorry that most of the responses seem grim, but like most people said before trust is probably the most important hing in a marriage and a betrayal of that trust can be very damaging. Is it possible to get him back? Possibly, but not right away you have to give him time to sort through all his feelings about the matter on his own. And if and when you do get him back be prepared for him to question all and probably every action you take. People generally give trust easy, but once its gone it's extremely difficult to get it back. One of the questions that he is asking is how can i trust you again, and before you answer him you need to ask yourself that questions as well, do you trust yourself not to do that again? Now if you just want him back and don't care how, I'm about to give the most unconventional advice out there, and will probably get a lot of heat for this but here goes, offer him a threesome, to a man this will show that you are willing to do anything to get him back and it will level the playing Field in some ways. I'm not saying that this should be your first option or that you should strongly consider it, but if you are desperate to try anything and and have tried everything else this might be a viable LAST RESORT.

Answer 3

How long ago did you tell him? You will have to give him time to sort his feelings out first.

Who did you cheat with? Was it a one time thing? How long have you been married? How long have you known this other person?

What was the reason you cheated? How old are you? How old is your husband? How was your relationship before this happened?

It really depends on all these things if the two of you will be able to work it out or not.

Answer 4

Lemme speak from experience, everyone here seems to think that it is not possible for you to get him back. But I am living proof that it can happen.

Circumstances maybe different: We were together for 6, almost 7 years, and I think that we were both getting bored. We had our same routines, in the same drab life, in the same blah blah blah....you understand. He was thinking of leaving prior to my affair. I had an affair with my boss. It was a one time thing, and totally regretted IT.

We were separated for a while, and it was hard. During this time, he went to anger counselling, and then we started to go to a marriage counsellor. We were not married, but common-law with children. We worked very hard on our relationship.

Communicating with him and how we both felt was difficult but it proved to be fruitful in the end. We have been married now for 2 years. He still once in a while, will scowl, or get that angry look about it if something reminds him of that. But I just take his hand and tell him that I love him and that I am sorry. It will take alot of "sorries" and it will take him to trust me again, completely 100%, but he took that step when he made me his wife and wanted to work out the differences. Everyone will always say dump her, or she is not worth it, but if he truly loves you, he will realize that tossing the relationship away is the quick fix, and the easy way out. Working on it takes effort and time, alot of time.

So, suggest councelling, live in separate places for a while, and then just get to know one another again. Just remember, everything you wanted to throw away, you know now that the place is where you want to be with your husband.

Good luck....I wish you the best.

Answer 5

My wife did the same and then wanted a second chance.She expected me to be the same as if nothing happened.After deciding the relationship was worth trying to save I worked very hard to overcome the hurt I felt.Meanwhile she was still contacting the other person behind my back.I really tried to work it out but because of all the pain she caused and the lack of trust I had it was to much to deal with. If you are really wanting to work things out with him you better be completely honest with him.You need to do alot of soul searching then beg him to take another chance.Understand that he is moving on and it's up to you to do the asking for forgiveness.
It takes alot to overcome something like this.Don't expect things to change overnight.Even if things work out remember that months down the road there will still be little reminders of things in the past so expect set backs.

Answer 6

Y did u cheat on him????

Put Ur self in his shoes y would he want a Ho for a wife when he could find that out side.

How do u expect for him to forgive u when u betrayed him..

Couldn't u talk to him b4 u did that.....
A marriage is based on trust with no trust there is nothing..

U should just move on and I hope u never feel the pain u cause him.

Answer 7

You obviously think that telling him the truth was something very noble on your part, and that it is already enough; and you are very wrong about that. You didn't do him a favor by telling him, you told him something that you should have told him because you were in the wrong for commiting adultery in the first place. I don't think you should wish after your husband anymore; he's not coming back. And, judging by how you have expressed no remorse, just seemingly self-pitying in your question, I can definitely say that by leaving you, he is doing himself a favor, BIoTCH!!!

Answer 8

Well first of all there may be nothing in the world that could get him back. I know if my man cheated on me I wouln't be able to forgive him. Your the one that decided to cheat on him in the first place. You knew by doing that you were taking the chance to lose him and you chose to do it anyways. Sorry I can't be much help. Hope it works out for you if you really love him!

Answer 9

I can’t blame him if he doesn’t want you back. I don’t tolerate that kind of behavior. You don’t deserve him back. Obviously you don’t love this man otherwise, you would’ve never cheated on him. I hope he won’t talk you back because he deserved better… especially better than you.
I just hope you have learned your lesson not to cheat on your other half. If he’s lacking of anything… tell him or break up with him, but cheating on him isn’t acceptable in any circumstances.

Answer 10

you have to win his trust first and if you do it, then maybe he will give you another chance. I dont blame him for wanting nothing to do with you anymore because face it, you hurt him and he has all the right in the world to dump your 8ss. you can show him you care about him by going to conseling but you have to keep in mind that he can always say no to you, it's his right and you can't force him to love a cheater or feel pity for you. this is going to be a very painful situation for both of you so learn from your mistakes and humiliate yourself as much as you need in order to show him that you are truly sorry.