I have this really nice friend, and I heard a few weeks ago that he liked me. I love him to death, but not as more than a friend. He wrote me this really sweet poem about how he feels about me, and now he wants an answer about how I feel about him. I need a way to turn him down without losing him as a friend. We both go to a really small school and even have a couple classes together, so I see him everyday. He's really sweet, but I just don't like him as any more than a friend, and I have never thought of him as more than a friend. Please help, I need an answer ASAP!!!
2007-03-21 12:27:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If my heart could express the feeling it could
I'd spend every second with you I would
I wrote this poem to show my affection
If you had the same feelings it would be perfection
2007-03-21 13:42:52 · update #1
I myself have written such a poem in similar hopeless circumstances; this is the answer that I needed then but didn't receive:
Tell him the exact truth. Thank him for the poem, tell him it was beautiful, make him realise that you understand what he is offering. Thank him but tell him that if you were to write him a poem it would be about the joy of friendship not love. Tell him the things you like about your friendship the way it is, why you value it, why you want it to continue. State very, very clearly that you look forward to walking with him as a friend but the particular path he wants to take now he must walk with another person. Honour his confidentiality. Sign off as his friend.
Do not procrastinate, don't say, "I'm not ready","I am not sure", "I'm not worthy". You are certain, you know your mind, you are swift, sure and in being so, merciful.
2007-03-21 12:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 07:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live in my heart and my heart is sad
for the love you seek is not to be had
I care for you in the deepest way
just not like that, if I may say?
I love you true and always will
as a friend that is, will yóu like me still?
for friends we are forever and all time
And as a friend you'll make my heart chime...
I dont know.. adapt it to what you think and feel....:)
discribe all other positive feelings and thoughts you have for him and let it be very clear thát love is not there....
2007-03-21 12:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. I had a friend ask me out and I gave in. The thing about it was, I was MISERABLE. We broke up and he turned out gay anyway.
What Im saying is that you should let him know exactly how you feel. If he's your friend he'll understand, and try to say something encouraging, like 'There's more fish in the sea'. Well not that, it sounds corny.
2007-03-21 12:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him excaly that..be like i think you are so great and i want to be your freind forever, but if we ever got together " dated" then iut would only ruen our freindship and i dont want that to happen becuase unlike most of my other friends, i value your freindship allot so it it ok that we are just friends? ...if you dont want to say it in person write him a note or something
2007-03-21 12:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋