Hey there, what happened was the following issue. My best guy friend (R.) and I have been best friends for a year more or less. He helped me out when i got past a relationship and I helped him out. But after that my nightmare starts. I've never liked to fall for one of my best friends, nore them to fall for me. But it happened with R. His way of being with me changed, thoe he always would say he wouldn't have changed. A lot of my other friend have told me he lookes at me in a different way, and his "I Love U" have growed a lot. I really like him as a friend. So when I found out he had a crush on me, before he would express his feeling, I told him I didn't wanted him to fall for me, that I wouldn't respond him as he deserved, he told me he got it, but since then he won't talk to me, nore answer my greetings, have I broken his heart? can we be best friends again? What can I do to make him talk to me at least?
2007-03-21 12:11:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Right now, I'm the guy in the same situation. If he's anything like me, he might be feeling like he doesn't know if he can handle being "just friends" anymore. Before you told him a romantic relationship was never going to happen, he had hope that your friendship would develop into love. Now he has no hope. Now, when he is around you, he probably feels despair and hopelessness. That's no fun, believe me.
After my friend told me she would never want to have a romantic relationship with me, I told her I needed some time before I could just "hang out" again. I honestly thought I would never see her again. But after about two and a half months, I decided to contact her.
We've hung out twice. I think I can deal with being around her again, but I can't handle it if she talks about other relationships. We fought about that the last time I saw her. I don't know what will happen now.
So, my advice is give him some time. He will contact you when he's ready. And you might have to accept that won't ever be ready. But if he does still want to be friends, DO NOT tell him about relationships. He doesn't want to hear it.
2007-03-21 12:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shawn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At this point in the game, he's probably trying to work some guilt, and make you feel bad, he also probably feels wierd about being "just friends" after getting turned down. If you don't feel awkward around him, then be honest with him and ask him why he's acting strangely around you. Tell him that you don't want to lose what you had. If he doesn't listen to your advice, give him time, things will get patched up through time. If not, then you can't have any regrets because you made the effort to fix the relationship.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 12:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by redsox579 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a well mannered way take a seat him down, tell him you would be his pal regardless and ASK HIM! If he's gay, he's relatively-known for a longggggggggggggggggggggggggggg time. probably because he became a newborn, so ask. in spite of what he says, settle for it. If he's not, then at yet another time, while your jointly tell him the way you sense. yet, in case you do not opt to try this....get some gay pals and ask them, or walk as much as a gay guy interior the line, gaydar is a stunning element.
2016-11-27 20:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well something similar happened to me, and well I think it`s very usual to see the guy who approaches a girl just to have her love, it`s common, but I think it is not legal in friends to have that kind of expectations, with someone who loves you as a friend, in my opinion. Anyway you can be friends of course, but it will never be the same, he will always be into you, that happened to me and I was able to be his friend again, but we had many troubles after, he never got over me, and so he is still into me, but I told him I didn`t ike him that way so he finally understood and now he`s one of my best friends, the best of luck!!! ;D
2007-03-21 12:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Madison♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you most definitely have broken his heart. its probably best he stays away from you. if hes in love with you and sticks around he wont ever e able to get over you, right now he needs his space so he can move on, and when he has maybe you guys can be best friends again but for right now hes trying to move on with his life.
2007-03-21 12:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Youll See 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, tough one. Maybe tell him that he'd like it better with someone else, or try to make amends with a heartfelt apology and suggestions. It won't heal really quickly, but if you work at it, maybe it'll get better over time.
2007-03-21 12:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by spaldingpunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt handle rejection well does he? you need to understand you cant make anyone do anything they dont want to. leave it alone. when he sees your not chasing him, he will call you. its a game.
2007-03-21 12:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋